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writes:Help! I am married to a wonderful man for 7 years now. We have 3 wonderful kids. I was out with my girlfriend and met this Brad Pitt look-alike from Brazil. He is so amazing in so many different ways. In the heat of the moment i shared with him a unbelievable kiss that will not leave my mind. I could not believe it happened. I want this man more and more as the days go on. I feel i would want to know if my husband had these feelings for someone else... so i told him. He handled it pretty well, and we have started talking of an open marriage. Please anyone who has been here tell me your thoughts on Open Marrige? Feeling this unbeliveable lust for this man more than my husband? Reply to this Question
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reader, matt79matt +, writes (22 November 2008):
I regulary see this other 'couple' once a week for dinner, conversation, and sex. This is slightly different than what you may want, but it is a good example that couples have many ways of surviving sexual desires and this situation really works for them and it's great for me because I'm not interested in a serious relationship. You do not have to get divorced over these feeling, so don't worry about that now. You might even find out that you prefer your hubby over anyone else you ever meet in the future, so it could be a very good thing.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Here's a blog by a woman in an open marriage.
http://confessionsfrommyopenmarriage.blogspot.com/
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reader, Jenny Block +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hi-I have been in an open marriage for eleven years, five of them open. It has been a wonderful experience for us both. People are not monogamous by nature and monogamous marriage does not work well for a large majority of people regardless of the lip service paid to it. I suggest you talk to your husband. You may be surprised to find that he feels exactly the same way that you do. Open marriage can really work well when love and honesty are the foundation.Wishing you all the best,Jenny BlockAuthor of "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage"www.jennyonthepage.com
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reader, oldfool +, writes (13 May 2008):
I don't disagree with what people have said on here. They're all saying the right thing. But it would be interesting to hear from someone who has actually been in an open marriage or a similar situation to the one you're in now. Surely someone has had a different kind of experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): open marriages are what scare me to death of marriage. I'd hate to hear from my husband that he wants an open marriage.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 May 2008):
 An open marriage is an oxymoron. No such animal.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 It amazes me how we let ourselves get so close to another person when we're not entitled to do that. I don't think open marriages are a great idea for most people. Are you willing to risk your marriage because you're attracted to a stranger. I'd be angry you got so close to him.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 I think you want us to approve your open marriage. That's not for us to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): The 60's (hippie era), and other studies have shown that open marraiges don't last very long.
Either your husband was stunned that he either went along with the suggestion, or he is assuming the marriage has problems and might be over anyways.
Curious why you would place yourself in such a position and then expect your husband to be okay with it. For me, it would break a trust and security just the mention of such a thought, and make me wonder who in the heck I have as a wife, and so naive to know the consequences of such actions. First, this is an individual who is a stranger to the family. You maybe so ga ga, that you will trust what he says over your husband, breaking the foundation your marriage should be built on. I recall an example presented in the bible that was similar, they (you and the look alike) were both put out of their misery. The implications of an open marriage are far reaching, and hard to explain, but very dangerous to a marriage, or stability within a group of people. Heaven forbid your were to get pregnant by this or anyother guy. Would it be right, fair for your husband to have to pay the cost in raising this child? The attitude your displaying will attract a boat loads of guys, many single and marriad would love to have something on the side, a freebee so to speak, especially at anothers expense like your husband. How would he like the idea of you being societies pass around pac? Others would love, he may not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): What's the point of a marriage if it's going to be "open"?
Too many people don't understand that to make a marriage or any long-term relationship last you have to WORK at it. There will ALWAYS be potential partners more desirable, better looking, richer, more loving, than the one you chose.
For goodness sake, woman. Take your husband to bed and give him the ****ing of his life. RIGHT NOW.
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reader, sylvia oliverpaul  +, writes (12 May 2008):
Dear i dont believe in open marriage cos it gives more
room for what u,ve just done,for the sake of your kids stick to your partner and be contented with his kiss though u,ve enjoyed it for years until now.
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