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writes:hi. i am just curious about something.. im 17 years old, im quite short fo rmy age, about 5'3. im a size 14-16 in clothes, but i only come in at a B in bra size. is this weird? when i look in the mirror i get so depressed. i have the smallest boobs in the world, and theyre made to look even smaller in comparison to my big love handles and large thighs. is this normal? iv never seen anyone with a figure like mine. i feel ugly. would a guy find it weird if he saw me naked? i feel like no one could ever love me. how do i overcome this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Your body is changing rapidly .Eat right and excercise do the best you can.If you are still unhappy at 25 you could get liposuction and a boob job like the rest of the women in this country/
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): Hi, I'm taller (5'8") and older (31) than you, but I've had the body shape you describe since I was 16 years old. My legs are short for my height and I have substantial saddle bags. My butt is pretty big and my thighs even bigger, and I also have cellulite on my legs. I'm a "pear shape" for sure! I'm usually size 16-18, and it's sometimes hard to find pants to buy. Tops are no problem, since I look completely normal from the waist up; my father once told me that when I'm sitting down, you'd never guess that I'm fat (ouch!). I've been super, super-fit at a few points in my life, but the butt never really goes away.I definitely don't have the boobs to go with my butt. My sister has an enormous chest and is quite thin (I have stretch marks on my butt, but she has them on her boobs). But I think I've had more luck with men than her. Intelligence, personality, confidence and compatibility really do go a long way. I think the best we can do is make the most of what we've got and accept ourselves for who we are. This is definitely easier said than done, especially if you're hung up on what you think your appearance should be, but keep at it. You're constantly criticizing yourself; why not try to name one good quality about yourself every time a negative thought comes up? And remember that often, even the people you think are gorgeous also consider themselves ugly.Physically speaking, it's much healthier to carry your weight on your bottom half. You may not look great in a mini-skirt and have legs going up to your neck, but you'll probably live longer. Apparently, having a bit of hip fat makes for smarter babies too. It's true, we are living in a culture that's obsessed with a skinny ideal of physical beauty, and we will never be supermodels. But there are just as many guys who aren't models either. Anyway, I've been in four long-term relationships, all with really skinny guys; there really is no accounting for taste. Some guys actually like a girl with a little meat on her bones, especially if she's confident and knows herself. If you don't feel that way now, don't worry, you'll get there. Just try to focus on making yourself a better and happier person on your own, right now, just as you are. The rest will follow.Good luck, and be happy!N.
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reader, RedPulicPoet  +, writes (8 December 2009):
Don't worry too much about how you look. I personally think that no matter how you look, it really is what's on the inside that matters. It really wouldn't matter how you looked as long as who I see behind that is beautiful. That's what I personally care for. The world today is too much about physical appearance and so many have forgotten that we all can be beautiful, despite how we look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): I have the same thing going on I am fourteen and my boobs are small and pointy and are about a B and I wear 14-16 too I just hope that maybe as I get older it will get normal :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): your breast size is just fine. great in fact. You will always be able to find tops that fit well and you can wear special bras to help make the girls stand up or separate as needed. you can wear tank tops without a bra or with the built in bra support. you're lucky. your height is good too. as a previous poster noted, if you're concerned about your weight get moving and loose some pounds. chances are you'll only gain weight as you get older so now IS the time to develop some healty physical activity habits and healthy eating habits too. and as for they guys...the like 'em all shapes and sizes...its the person they like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): I dont think you should be worrying about your body sweety it is whats on the inside that counts. You will one day meet a great guy because your beautiful inside and out. The ones that go for looks only trust me arent worth keeping anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): 5'3 is not short is average. and b size is actually consider to be ideal. Adriana Lima the victora's secret model is a small b size and she's ideal. If you're over weight i wold suggest going on a diet and going to the gym. Not only will you look and feel better but you wil be healthier. Just make sure you dont starve youself. Focus on eating protein and whole grains not white bread or pasta, no artificial.
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reader, Markingbad +, writes (31 October 2009):
 Its true what marieclaire says about women in uk. You are UK "medium". Or cuddly. You have nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): Let me let you in on a little secret... guys like all shapes and sizes of women. Guys like women full stop. Guys like boobs full stop, no matter the size. And I'm sure if someone loves you he's going to love you when he sees you naked.
In my opinion women spend way too much time obsessing about their figures, especially their breasts. They say things like they hate their boobs or they hate their nose, or the ass or whatever, and you look at them and you can't for the life of you see what they're going on about! I'm sure you don't look anywhere near as bad as you imagine you do.
Don't waste time obsessing about something only you can see, and you can't do anything about it if it's true.
I think a woman can be sexy no matter what body type she is (well, within reason). It's all in the attitude. If she's confident and comfortable with herself, and feels sexy then she projects that sexiness.
Trust me on that.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (30 October 2009):
 First off let yourself grow up before you start getting all doom and gloom about your body. There is so much pressure about body image being pushed on girls now days its no wonder you are unsure of yourself.
When you get a little older you can consider addressing your weight if it really bothers you. As for the boobs my suggestion is that you rock what you got and not get implants. I think most women look silly with implants and they feel weird too.
I think you have made a wrong assumption about what men are about. Sure some guys are superficial and image oriented but that goes both ways and ultimately who cares. The day will come when you don't care either. As you grow up you will find that alot of men want character and compatibility above looks.
I personally like hips :) So rock what you got girl!
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