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writes: Hello..i've recently met a guy who i really really like. We've been on a few dates in a very short time and we talked a lot. I even got (maybe stupid) the feeling that he's "the one", which is kind a big deal for me, because i'm very very picky when it comes to love or even liking a person.Everything would be just "too good to be true", if there wasn't one thing standing between us. On our second date he told me that he was hepatisis C positive, which he doesn't know how he got it, but he's quite sure that on the his 6 months trip in a foreign country. He said that after he found out he's positive, he went through 1 year long process of treatment which had a lot of side-effect , but the results was good and he's HCV negative at the moment. The treatment include a 3 year long preventive program, which means that he has to go on a clinic every week to get his blood testing, because there is a possibility that disease can appear again in these 3 years. He has to do that for another year and 3 months.Even he's negative at the moment and he was quite lucky that the medications had so good efffect (60-80% of people with his kind of HCV are healed), he said that's he's still paranoid every time he scratch or cut himself accidentaly, he would rush to get anti-infection medication and clean himself immeditaly.He told me he won't be sure until these 3 years of preventive program wouldn't pass by. So that probably means that he wouldn't have sex for another year and half, because he's afraid to infect someone (even he has almost no chances to do that as doctors said).We haven't had anything physical (not even a kiss) and everything is on kind of "friend zone", even he texted me one day that i have hypnotic, "seductive" eyes and that he's happy to meet me, because i have interesting effect on him. I think i'm falling for him and i think he likes me too and everything would be great except the HCV part. I want to be with him, touch him and spend a lot of time with him.So my questions are: What to do in this complicated situation? Should i tell him i like him very much or wait this 1,3 year to pass (which is a long time for people in love)? Is there someone who was in the same situation or having experiences HCV?I like him more and more, every date is better and i have no idea what's the best thing to do!!PS: sorry for my english, it's not my first language!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 Eh, he recently got it. That's why he's in a fuzz about it. I was with a man who had Hepatitis B (chronic) and he told me on the first date even. But it was no biggie I felt, I went and got my vaccination and then we just used condoms. Sure, if he cut himself he could infect me, but only if I also had a cut or open wound. There's no vaccine for Hepatitis C, but never the less. The vaccine for Hep B takes about a year or so to work and I was with him for a year and a half, and having a relationship where you always need to use condoms isn't really bad at all. We had a great sex life. We had a scare a time when we bought condoms that were too big, but the chances are still slim that you'll catch it through sexual contact. Hepatitis spreads primarily through blood.
What I mean to say is.. As long as you're not a vampire who has a need to suck his blood, and as long as you don't share needles.. you should be fine. He just needs time to calm down and absorb the fact that he's got it, and learn how to live with it. My guess is he's still just so shocked about it that he's taking enormous and unnecessary precautions. He just needs time to calm down and realize that it's not the end of the world. He'll get there though, just give it time. Remind him that Pamela Anderson has Hepatitis C and that she still goes on with her life. So can he. No need to put things on pause. But give him the time he needs before you move on to anything sexual. But KISSES and holding hands is harmless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2012): My advice would be to go to your doctor and ask him all the questions you have regarding HCV and your friend. And proceed slowly with the relationship. If you hardly know him and he is already talking about your seductive eyes, then he is warming up for something! So be very careful. Also ask to see his test results because you only have his word for it that he is negative at the moment and you dont know him or how honest he REALLY is. So be very sensible, keep yourself safe and protect your health x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2012): If you want a relationship with him you need advice from a medical professional as to how to proceed. Not advice from well meaning friends or people you don't know. Go to your doctors and discuss what the implications are. Then you know and can make a judgement.
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reader, Sammia  +, writes (17 June 2012):
Relationships are not based on sex they are based on a foundation of friendship and trust. There is no reason why you can't be together, if you are willing to wait for the physical part of relationship then you should be together. You should find out as much as you can about the infection and be careful. There is always a risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection or Hep or HIV no matter who your partner is. But you know and can be prepared have a long talk together make sure you are both on the same page. I hope things work out for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 My brother has Hep C and has for years. His husband is Hep C negative. My brother did NOT catch it from any sexual act. He borrowed a razor from a friend at work and used it...
His husband has HIV and has for years. My brother is NOT HIV positive....
they are very careful and have been together for 10 years...
but even with condoms you still run risks.... remember that.
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