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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He loves to hang out w his cousins and have a good time. He has gotten into the habbit of going out to bars with out me and Seeing as how most of his cousins are single I'm usually ok w that. I don't mind him having a social life aside from me but what bothers me is that i feel like I get the short end of the stick when Sunday comes (the day we normally hang out...sometimes the only day we hang out) and he is sleeping 90% of the day because he is so tired from being out so late the night before. I feel like I don't get quality time or spend fun times w him. Tonight he told me he was hanging out w his Dad for fathers day, come 9pm I get a text from his friends wife asking if I'm going to the bars too. I say "I didn't know about it" and she said she wanted me to go, an hour later my bf texts me and tells me he is on his way to a bar. I tell him ok have fun and go about my business. I receive a few texts asking how my day was etc. then I go to bed and ask him to please text me when he is home because I worry. At 230am he calls me telling me he is leaving the bar, clearly drunk. I go back to sleep, 10 min later he calls me asking me to pick him up...this has happened numerous times before and I always wake up to drive him and his buddies home. I asked where his Designated driver was and he proceeded to tell me he let the driver take "the ladies" home instead of him. Now let's get one thing straight, I'm not jealous. The ladies he's referring to are his friends wives/ girlfriends who all seem to get invited all the time. He always tells me it's "only going to be guys night" and the next day I always hear about the girls that go. I feel like if he's going to be going out EVERY WEEKEND he could at least include me in the plans every once in a while so I don't feel badly. Anyway, I told him I couldn't go get him and he got upset saying I clearly don't care about him, blah blah. I called him about an hour or two later to make sure he was home safe and he was at a friends house. We hung up and he called me again about 30 min later asking if I could go get him. These are things that happen regularly. Although I didn't go get him this time I normally do. I try to be a cool gf and think that I want him to get his partying out of his system before we move in together (some we talk about regularly) but at the same time I'm feeling resentment and wonder if I'm wasting my time. I try to talk to him about things and how it makes me feel but I've never met anyone as stubborn as him. He has a way of turning things around and making them seem like they're my fault or my feelings are not just or I'm overracting. I don't know how to get through to him or if I should even waste my time. Help.
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Well talk to him,say that you want him to spend more time with you.If that dosent work than why wasting time on him say 'there are 7 billion people in this WORLD i realy dont need you..have fun at the bar im out' and than just leave him if only what he cares for is that stupid bar !?
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