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writes:Hi okay I'm having an issue. My best friends older brother is 2-3 years older than us, but I'm falling for him and have secretley liked him since i met him about 3 years ago. He always talks to me and talks about how hilarious I am and stuff. I liked him on and off. It never got serious. Then last time I was over at her house he was like touching me randomly (like my arm, hip, etc not like weirdly). Then I started liking him more. Now I'm freaking out because I think I'm reallly falling for him. He has the same style as me and we have a lot in common and a lot of stuff not in common :P. We always talk about how age shouldnt matter.. But does it right now? Should I just wait to move forward until we're older?
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 There are alot of things to consider before you make any sort of a move (now or in the future).
Have you considered what will happen to your friendship?
This is your best friend, what will happen if you lose her?
She may be so upset at you dating her brother that your friendship will be over (or never the same again).
If you and her brother split up, well blood is thicker than water and she has to live with him.. Your friendship will likely be over forever.
In my opinion I would wait until your older, when any relationship you have actually has a chance of long term success. Relationships at your young age generally (although its not impossible) dont last forever. So be prepared for losing not only your friend but also getting your heart broken too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): Before going any further I think you should talk to your friend. A lot of times a friend's brother is a no go area. If you and her brother get together it changes the friendship. My "friend" was going out with my brother for a few years until recently. They have had a bad break up, she announced it all over facebook before telling him it was over, and now can't understand why I no longer will remain her friend. The friendship will change because at the end of the day he is her brother, and it may upset her, so at least show her the respect of talking to her about it before you change the friendship on her and put her in an awkward situation. Good Luck.
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (10 December 2011):
Okay just kidding but seriously we used like the same words. But I guess thats what its like when you like your friends brother "a freakout moment" :P good luck!
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (10 December 2011):
Okay!!! Who copied my questionn????? Lol I just asked a question like this
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 I think you should talk to your best friend about this and tell her the truth about how you feel. If you get the okay from her then you should go for it and see what happens. Just remember to keep it slow and take your time with it. But I think you need to talk to your friend first, because at the end of the day it is her brother and it might upset her, and am sure she is more important to you. So talk to her about it.
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