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writes:I know a girl who is 25, and a very sweet girl, with a tough set of issues (she drinks too much and is in her own words,a "beautiful mess"). She is very kind and thoughtful also. Well, I'm older, and she and i met at a restaurant where she worked at. We went out a few times and kissed etc...but remained friends. Well, she was living with her ex bf who was emotionally abusive and she left last saturday. She emailed me and said she was now homeless, and i offered my place to her. She accepted and has now been here w/ me for the past 4 days. It also happened to be labor day weekend, and her and I ended up hanging out for the last 3 days, and she told me she hasn't had so much fun in ages, and I agreed. I really had alot of fun. I am falling for her, and she and I sleep in the same bed, and snuggle, but no sex. She also is talking about doing things in the future, like we'll have to do this one day etc...is she really becoming interested? or is she just being nice because of what i'm doing for her? I told her how happy i am to help, and that she should view my place as hers...she said she feels safe....sorry so long, but i feel something, i just don't know if i should act, wait, or what!!please help....desperately falling
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Tell her! If she doesn't feel the same way, then things don't have to be awkward, just carry on as usual, just with the knowledge you two will just have to stay as friends.
Although, I'm almost certain that she feels the same way, from what you wrote.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Be gentle with her. If she has had a rough past, she needs a cushion. Probably not having sex is the right way to go, just do things together. Show her that you care. If your sleeping in the same bed together and snuggle, chances are she likes you and trusts you. She sees something in you she likes. Just do stuff together. Build your relationship. All will be figured out in time.
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