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writes:i am falling for a girl who works for me. i'm an average looking guy and she is beutiful. we used to kinda battle a little. we have awalys flirted a little and sometimes touching recently after a argument we both vowed not to fight anymore. since then its been great although we still flirt. recently somehow it came up that she asked me to feel her breasts because she was thinking about getting implants. acting reluctant. i did she made it out to be no big deal i didn't say anything. i awalys liked her but never thought she would want anything to do with me. but now my feelings for are accelerating. 2 days ago she asked me to lunch and she looked amazing now i can't get her out of my mind. she is currently single mom with two kids. when she came into work that same day all was good she wants to lunch again she texted me after work that night to say good night. i texed her back and wrote “if you get bored gimme a call” then the next night she was stand offish she told me she brought a dress and some high heels and she was going out. she told me about a guy she thought was attractive. i left work and was hoping she would call me and she hasn't since. now im wondering if i was seeing signs that wernt there?
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reader, jimrich +, writes (13 September 2010):
re: now im wondering if i was seeing signs that wernt there?
... It's more that you are ill-informed and do not have adequate communication skills and other relationship skills to pursue a relationship.
re: she is currently single mom with two kids.
.... IMO, the main thing about learning and using good relationship skills is to make sure that the most important yet vulnerable individuals - the kids - are protected from being harmed by inadequate parents and given the good, loving home all kids deserve.
Google: relationship tips and get started learning how to make a good relationship for the sake of the kids and you adults.
Unless you learn exactly how to make it work, everyone will be damaged - especially the kids.
good luck
Jim
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (13 September 2010):
She asks you to feel her breasts... most guys would spend the rest of the day following her around with a boner praying they would get laid that night. You, on the other hand, played it cool. At this point, she's thinking, "Do I have absolutely no effect on this man? Doesn't he think I'm hot? Maybe I'm not hot anymore." She asks you to lunch, and you go, and you don't follow up by asking her to dinner or something. She is dying for you to want her. She texts you to say goodnight. Now here's where you screwed up. "If you get bored gimme a call." BZZZT. Wrong answer. What does that tell her? At that point she thinks, "He likes me, maybe he liked me all along, but he's a wimp. He wants to talk to me on the phone, but he's not man enough to call me. I've already stuck my neck out asking him to lunch, texting him, and asking him to FEEL MY TITS, and now he's asking me to stick my neck out again by calling him."
You cannot make a move when she is in this state of being freshly made aware of you liking her. The only way this might be salvageable is to play it so cool that she wonders if she completely misinterpreted your text message. You should act as if her presence barely registers in your mind, but be careful not to overdo it to the point where she thinks "He's pouting because of those things I said about the other guy." This week should be the most productive workweek of your life, making phone calls, hacking away at the computer, etc. If she starts up with the flirting and everything again, then congratulations, you've got another shot. If she doesn't, well, consider it a lesson. Good luck.
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