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writes: Hi, ive just started my period, im 15 and a late starter so i darnt turn to my friends for advice, i dont have a clue what to say to my mum because my periods are like browny black and i dont wanna emabarass myself. my mum bought me a load of pads and stuff ages ago for when i started, i have just been using those and then hiding the evidence under my bed i know its disgusting but i dont know what to do!? help please.
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reader, xoheretohelpxo  +, writes (26 November 2010):
hey there. i'm 14 and haven't long got my periods, before i thought i was the odd one out as my friend's had their's and i wished i had my periods then. now i've got them i wish i never had them ever, there just annoying and a pain. when i got my periods i text my mum lol and she said ok and i told her not to mention anything ever to me about it and she said no problem so ever since she's not mentioned anything. you should just say because sooner or later she's going to find out just go a head get it over a done with make you feel better if you do. oh and congrat's on becoming a woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Hii babes,darling, if you really dont want to tell her then dont ! but im sure you'd like her to know about your concern as would she babes, i started at age 11, im 14 now, and i had it coming out a weird colour, it confused me, a lot, and saying about the 'under your bed' bit, i did the same but in my warbdrobe. my mum soon cleaned it out and felt it was revolting, but then i told her my concern. im always embarrasd about tlking to my mum about anyfing, but soon spill the beans, especially when it comes to sexual activities!! cant do that. if u feel uncomfortable talking to her yourself, talk to someone u do feel comfortable with knowing, then they could do the honours for you?take care xxx Abii xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): I'm 12, started my period when i was 11. I used pads for ages, and I started getting curious about tampons. I asked my mate if she had any, luckily she had some at home. She gave me some, but now I've ran out. I'm too afraid to ask my mum to buy me some, or go to the shop and buy some myself. I hate wearing pads, but I love wearing tampons. My mates are different cause they prefer pads.. I don't know what to do! I want to be comfortable when I'm on my period. Please give me some advice?
[I had to post here because I have no idea how to create a question!]
Thanks alot, Alix.
Please please please someone help me!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 May 2008):
Woo! Congratulations on becoming a woman!
You don't have to tell your mum if you don't want to. It's not like you have to stand up and announce it at dinner. She probably assumes you have started already.
Just wrap the pads in loo roll and put them in the bathroom bin. The men in the house won't notice as they won't be counting weeks, and you mum may pick up on it and get in extra stocks of pads.
When women are close and live together their cycles usually move to be at the same time anyway (don't ask why, it's just one of our mysterious powers) so you will both be on together.
Yes it is brown and gooey and horrible I'm afraid. I thought it would be like Ribena when I started and thought I must be infected with something.
This is something to be happy about though, wear something red today and celebrate in secret.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Aw, hon it's ok. I did something similar because I lived with my single dad NIGHTMARE! But my grandma bought me pads well inadvance, just tell your mom (IT'S NO BIG DEAL!) EVERY woman has her period, your favorite celebrities, your best friends(if they haven't gotten theirs already they will) it's just you being a woman. So toss the stuff from under your bed in the trash and tell your mom, I guarantee once you do it you'll think 'Gee, that wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.' Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Honey I understand what you're feeling, but it's all natural and she got you those pads because she probably knew you would find it hard to talk to her right away. It doesn't have to be a heart-to-heart! Just say, "Oh by the way, just so you know, I got my period" and thats it! You don't need to go into detail at all. But please throw away whatever you've used, as it's not very hygienic and will start to smell. Yes, 15 years old is a little older than some other girls, but not unnatural! And this is probably about the age your mum started too. So don't worry, you're becoming a woman and this enables you to have the greatest gift, children! Good luck :]
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reader, spanglegirl +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Hello lovely- I know, it feels embarrasing doesn't it? I was just turned 11 when i started my periods and when it first arrived it frightned the life out of me before i realised what was happening. I did exactly the same as what you are doing now, i felt so embarrased and slightly ashamed of hiding it and couldn't tell my mum either. I didn't have any pads or anything and my mum used tampons so didn't really no where to start with them-so i used folded up toilet roll instead, which didn't work very well!
I managed to keep this up for 2 months before my mum found some of the 'evidence' and asked me about it. I felt very embarrased but she told me i had nothing to feel embarrased about as it's a normal part of growing up. I know you feel as if you dont know how to tell her, but honey believe me you will feel so much better once it's out in the open and your mum knows. Also you are not a late starter, 15 is the average age to start and my cousin and one of my friends were 16 when they started theirs.I bet even some of your friends haven't started theirs yet or maybe embarresed about it aswell. When it started happening to me and my friends, none of us really mentioned it as we were too embarrassed-it wasn't until quite a while later that we all started to talk about it.
So pluck up the courage, wait till mums on her own and just bring it up casually in conversation. It's nothing to be ashamed of, it's just a normal part of growing up for a girl, and i'm sure your mum will be pleased you confided in her-it will make you feel so much better!. Good luck with it honey. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Hey im 15 and I started in september and I havn't told my mum yet. I have coped after all these months just fine BUT I wish I had the courage to tell her. And I advise you to do so. Dont hide the pads under your bed, either hide them under the garbage, or take them to school or a public place where you can put them in a special bin. Personaly I have never used pads I just started straight on tampons because thats all there was in the house. And they are much easier tbh. But anyway you could write a note for your mum if its easier, or call her up and pretend you just got it then. It could be easier over the phone. Let me know how you get on, maybe it will influence me to do the same (I wish!) Good luck hun xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Oh dear, hiding the evidence under your bed? Not a good idea, sweetheart...throw it in the trash!
I am concerned that you are so ashamed of something that is part of nature, that is part of being a woman and it happens to all girls at some point. Your age is very average for when the monthly visitor starts for girls, so you are perfectly normal.
Your mom gave you those supplies in case you were afraid to tell her, or it happened while she wasn't there.
What are you afraid of? Is it scarey to you to grow up and have to deal with a new more adult responsibility? Sorry, there is not getting around it, you will now have to deal with this every month hopefully for a very long time about 35 to 42 years exactly so no need to get all worried at the get go....you'll survive this and will learn how to take care of yourself, but your mom is there to help you get started, so go ahead and reach out to her for support, you will be glad you did, she is your mom after all, she gave birth to you, so what do you have to be embarassed about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Don't worry. Your periods sound perfectly normal.I remember when I first got mine. I was in school in these dark nasty toilets. When I came out I told my friend that I had started. I told her it was really dark (refering to bathroom) and she told me that it was always like that when ever she got it. Ah, it was funny.Every girl has to get their period and some stage in their lives. It natural and it is nothing to be ashamed of.One of my friends had a party with her mother when she got hers, to celebrate that she was now becoming a woman. Your mother will probably be able to see that your body has been developing and she will be expecting it to some soon.Hiding you pads under your bed is not very hygenic. Don't be ashamed though. You're understandably nervous. Take a deep breathe and tell your mum that you've started your period. If you don't want to say it directly then tell her that you think you'll need more pads soon (even if you have loads). If you need to ask anything but feel embarrassed about posting it then you can mail me.Good Luck. X
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reader, Deema +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Hello Darling. Oh what a shame you don't feel able to talk to your mum, she could give you so much reassurance I'm sure. When we first get our periods we get all kinds of funny colours going on, its just your body adjusting and getting into its grown up state. There's nothing to be ashamed of though love, its very normal. I'm sure your friends would be great to talk to as well. You don't have to tell them you just started - though thats nothing to be ashamed of - everyone is different, but both my girls never started till they were 15, thats within the normal range darling. Try and be brave and tell your mum. She sounds like she did well when she got all the stuff for you to be prepared. I'm sure she'd want to support you. Have you got a grown up cousin or auntie you could confide in if not your mum? Just start by telling mum you just had a period, see what happens. Its nothing to be ashamed of. its all part of growing up. Welcome to the world of being a woman!!!! Congratulations!!! It means one day you'll be able to have babies. Thats very precious. Lots of love darling. Take care xx
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