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writes:Hey all, il try to make this quick. I used to date this guy around 3 years ago and since we split for the reason i cant remember, i havnt spoken to him since. Anyway around a month ago i was out drinking with my cousin and we ended up bumping into my x and his friend and at the end of the night we all went bk to his place. My x asked me what i was looking for to which i replied i didnt want a bf but i would like to be FWB, he was ok with this and since we have been meeting up and stuff. Then on friday after we had all been out he took me to one side and said he and his x of over a year had been speakin and he had agreed t give it another go with her and me and him could not still sleep together but he still wanted to speak and not fall out with me. I was fine with this and told him i hoped it worked out but that night we ended up sleeping together. I have not spoken to him since and nor am i going to sleep with him whilst he is seeing someone, the thing his my cousin is now dating his friend who lives with my x and wants me to still go down with her at the weekend for a few beers and a laugh, my x said he didnt mind me going down but im not sure whether i should as it may be awkward if his gf is there. So what im wondering is should i still go down as usual and txt my x as friends or keep away and if he wants to speak to me then let him get in touch first. What are your views and experiences with this type of thing? Thanks for any replies and sorry for the long post x
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reader, Dawntreader +, writes (25 May 2008):
Never been in a situation exactly like this, but something similar....Let's summarise this:- You split with your bf3 years after split , you meet by chance and agree to be FWBThe chance meeting happened when he'd just split with his recent gfThe night he tells you he's going back to his gf, you sleep togetherOk...all that said ....I think if the 2 of you have any contact with each other, it'll be just a matter of time before you sleep together. As for not sleeping with him while with someone else...well..you already have!, and he will continue to sleep with you while you're readily available.
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reader, growing  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 I guess you are just having fun.neither he nor you want anything more than this.
If you have no issues then whats a big deal.
He inspite of having a gf doesn't feel guilty about that and you knowing the fact ,still slept with him and is considering him as a option(for fun),then what you want from us??
Its your own rules and self consciousnes that tells you whats wrong and whats not.if you are ok then i don't think there is anything more to this but yes,make sure that emotional factor is out of it cos then it can get a bit messy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): I'd say it would be pretty uncomfortable. Maybe you should give yourselves some distrance for a while, because you're both still attractive to one another sexually and even though he called it off last time you still slept with one another, which was really bad, seeing as he had just started going out with someone again. It wouldn't be fair on his girlfriend for this to happen again and I'm sure that if she found out about the first time she'd break up with him again.
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