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*arergal
writes:I am dumping someone soon as he is controlling and tells me what to do.I am scared about being single again as i have had a tough life i though yes finally i have something good but it being snatched away.he has a daughter wit someone else before i meet him. i just don't know what to do. i have had bad relationships.People dont go for me as im fat and not skinny and good looking. I feel depressed as so many people have someone all ready and guess im jelous.What do i do? I am confused.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Skinny only looks good in a photo. Most guys love a girl with a bit of flesh on her bones, so never mind about that! I'm more concerned that you would choose to stay in a bad relationship and that you say all of your relationships have been bad. You DO deserve better for yourself, but until you choose to believe that, you are drawing this back onto yourself. Every decision in life requires us to choose one path over another, leaving something behind. It sounds like you are finally having a good life, except for the relationship. It's true, being single again is a scary prospect. It's scary and a bit lonesome. But isn't it worse being in a relationship that makes you feel all alone? At least, if you are single and looking, you have control over your life again, and you can choose a relationship for yourself that will be good for you. Best of luck Honey, take good care of yourself.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (28 November 2007):
 You're better off being single and lonely than with someone controlling. There'll always be someone out there, I wa single for a year before my current girlfriend and it started to get me down and I did some pretty bad things. Then I stopped looking, just kept going out with friends, enjoying myself, and she started talking to me. Jump into the pond, there's plenty of fish! x
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Been there, done that with the controlling thing. I had an ex who told me what to wear, not to wear makeup, etc. etc. He didn't even want me to wear chapstick. I had to argue with him for that. Anyways....how did you become overweight? My mom has a condition called hypothyroidism which makes it hard for her to lose weight. I guess my point is, that if you feel that you are not good-looking do something about it. Get a make over, something. Hey, there are lots of skinny people who are not good-looking themselves! I'm not going to tell you to exercise, even though that would probably make you feel better, because of the endorphins you get, but I'm not going to tell you to do that, because like I said, you might have a medical condition like my mom has. Start loving yourself. Be there for yourself. Be your own friend. Hang out with your friends. Go to social events. I'm giving you all these things as suggestions of what to do after you dump this guy, because you don't deserve him. You deserve someone better.
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