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writes:Am I wrong for not feeling guilty at going to his friends house, finding out he is in love with me but still going home to my partner ? I have seen his friend more often now but dont feel guilty when we sit and speak about what life could be like if we were together. I cant stop thinking about him now but dont know if it is cos I now know that he likes me and it is just an ego boost. I would not like it to be that but as he says he knows that whatever happens someone is going to get hurt and really speaking its not gonna be me. It will be him or my partner. I dont want to hurt anyone but i am so confused at what to do. Would i be best to finish with my partner and leave his friend alone and just break all contact altogether or what. Please help !!! Reply to this Question
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reader, nicnac +, writes (22 June 2007):
nicnac is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe only problem is that his friend is blind and I dont know how I would cope with that, not being selfish but i want a life where i can see that he is enjoying things, i mean what exactly could we do. I think I would be really bored with sitting in all the time.I have a 5 yr old son also which I think would be difficult for him but I relly dont know. We have told each other that we will not be doin anything until me and my partner finish but to be honest I dont even really think I want to finish with my partner, so confused one thing i think yes go for it then i think but could you handle it.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (22 June 2007):
 If you are sitting down with him talking about what life could be like if you were together then i think it would be only fair to finish with your now partner, like you say you can't stop thinking about him.
Give your partner the respect he deserves and let him move on and even if nothing comes of his friend then at least you can then move on as well rather than being with some one you don't really want to be with.
You might find that once you have finished with your partner you and the friend will be able to start a relationship as their will be no guilty feelings from either party.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): You definitely need time to think this through. Please don't engage in anything deeper with your partner's friend just yet and save yourself the extra confusion. I think you would've feel guilty if you really love your current boyfriend and had a good relationship with him. So, I suggest you tell him that you need time to think things through. But don't go to the other guy. Just be alone for a couple of days (the longer the better) and see how you feel about both of them and make a decision. Take into account that this "new" guy is kind of betraying your actual partner (who is supposed to be his friend) by telling you how he feels about you and talking about all these possibilities between you two. He doesn't care that his friend is going to suffer. That might be a red flag. But it's your decision. Make a smart choice.
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