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writes:I need help on how to get thru a painfull time Been with bf a year He has kids aged 14-9He is in the army and based on the opposite side o the country from where there kids mother lives with them He cant handle that because he only gets one weekend off a month from the army he only gets to see them once a monthHe has told me it breaks his heart being away from them and although he thinks the world of me he needs to see them more He has been so honest with meThe only way he can see more of them is if they move here and the only waythat can happen is if he trys again with his ex The pain is killing me He said if there was no kids he would be with me but i know he will make it work for the kidsI asked him if he loved her or if he loved her because she was the mother of his kids He said the second one I also asked if he saw them together for the rest of his life and he said he really didnt knowIm broken and just want the pain to go awayI know ppl dont think its good but please dont tell me im wrong as i feel its what i need We are still gonna be friends and keep in contact We still wanna be in each others lives as neither of us have done anything wrong Its just circumstances.I cant see a future for me without him I love him He is my first bf and the pain is killing mePlease help with any advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what your saying but i feel as tho i really do want him in my life in some way I have real issues with seperation from people and this has always been the case
I want him around even if it is as a friend and he has promised to always be there for me and never let me down as a friend He has been so honest i really do believe him
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reader, flower girl +, writes (22 June 2007):
 I think that as much as you love this man, if he is going to go back to his wife even if it's only for the sake of the children it is really not a good idea for you to stay in contact with him it's hard enough for you now just knowing that he is going back.
I think it would be best to try and leave this in the past and move on as it is going to be really painful to be speaking to him or seeing him if he is back with his childrens mother and you want more.
Take care.xx.
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