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writes:Hi. I need advice. I've been with my bf for 5 years..and i do love him. He has his idiosyncracies of course but overall i know he's a good guy and loves me very much. He'd do anything for me and he's told me so. My family tho lately seems to have a different opinion. He didn't get on with them in the beginning but they eventually came to like him and accept him. Lately tho my family and my sister in particualar are saying that my eyes are closed and that they think he's gonna tear apart our family one day and im oblivious to it all. (he did get into a fight with my sister months ago and they're not on the best of terms). They think i'm too good for him and i could do much better and it upsets me so much to hear this. I know there's lots of guys out there but now i'm doubting whether or not this guy is for me. I'm so confused b/c i know our relationship isnt perfect but sometimes i wonder if my family is right? I dont want to break up with my bf for my family and i wont but now my feelings are being doubted towards him..any advice please? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Unfortunately your answer can only come from within. You need to ask yourself how he makes you feel? Do you like being with him? Can you picture your future together?
Sometimes outside observers can see things that we can't, this is true. But family also isn't usually the most objective observer either. What do your friends think of him? Do they have the same feelings as your family?
I had a GF once who my friends and family all hated. I bull headedly went forward despite them. What did they know, I was in love. Well, I eventually saw what they did. The more I think back, the more I see how right they were. The thing is, that once they stated their case, most of them dropped it. I came to the realization on my own eventually, but I had to learn for myself.
What your family is doing isn't right. It is your life to live the way you see fit. I can understand why you're questioning your relationship, but if you truely love eachother, and have for the last 5 years, maybe your family is wrong.
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