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writes:I met my husband 9 years ago and we will soon be having our 8th anniversary and I am have a hard time deciding if I should stay in this relationship. For the 1st year things was wonderful but, soon after our daughter was born he begin to cheat, staying out all night and no regard to my feelings and most of all our marriage. Once my daughter turned 2 I left our home because, he contiuned to cheat after having a run in with the police he moved in with us. I was thinking things was going to get better only to find that it was worst then ever. Still me being blind and wanted so much for us to be a family I allowed the cheating and then ended up pregnant with our son which he is 4 years old now. For the past 15 months my husband has been in prison and I still love him very much even with all the mess he has done. Or am I just "Crazy in Love"
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Dear Undecided2001,It's not important what somebody else is thinking about still loving him so much after all what happened.But I can imagine that people who don't know all the details, will not understand you. It's too easy to say for me that you are a 'crazy in love woman', but don't let yourself make crazy by third people's opinions.What you should do to my opinion, is trying to understand the real reason that you are still so much in love with this ... what many people could call a Jerk.Ask yourself what makes you depending so much on him, this might have to do with your self-esteem and many other good reasons.If I was you, I would start to read some books to make you understand yourself better:How to live with yourself (Murray Banks) (reed this first)and the next one:The power of your subconscious mind (Dr. Joseph Murphy).Those 2 books will help you a lot.I wish you all the best.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (11 February 2009):
 You are def just crazy in love. If at all possible for you mentally, leave him as soon as possible. I have been thru just about everything you talked about, including the prison thing, and am now into 14 years of misery in my marriage. Most of my love for my husband is dead, but we are still married. Not leaving him, and actually marrying him in the first place, is a decision I will always regret. It's good that you can still love him to pieces, but he will kill that love and a piece of your soul, too, if you stay with him. I don't tell you this lightly, as I am usually all for love and being with the one you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I think you've answered your own question. You have to ask yourself what the benefits of being crazy in love with this man are. I don't see any whatsoever. What is there to love about him? He may be good in the sack but I see little else.
You could do better, that's for sure. He's treated you little better than a doormat since you met him. Do you have such a low opinion of yourself that you put up with his behaviour? What a role model his is for the kids!
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