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writes:Hey I'm Hillary, I'm on here because I'm doing a senior project about advice and I heard of this site from a friend and thought that it would be a good idea to get me started. I'm trying to help people out and get their feedback to write my paper. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Interesting project! The type of advice asked for most often? I don't know if this is scientific enough for your purposes, but the moderators 'tag' each question with categories. If you look at the right hand column on the main page, you'll see a list of categories, with the number of questions in each one. This might help you answer your own question. Keep in mind that most questions have more than one 'tag'; that is, they fall into more than one category.
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reader, wrhillgil +, writes (5 January 2009):
wrhillgil is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey thank you all so much for helping me. Do u guys know what type of advice is asked most?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): I think "daletom" explained it very clearly. Should you need assistance on specific criteria, feel free to post your questions or feel free to PM me.
Giving advice or assistance to people is a responsibility. You cannot force your feelings or opinion on the other party; however,it is very important to try and help them to get a clear perspective of the situation and there various options.
Never judge; try to listen and ask questions when needed; often people need to vent and are in need of someone to listen; it really depends on the situation and the circumstances.
It is impossible to give you all the answers on the various scenarios, but if you have specific questions please feel free to ask.
Helping people is very rewarding. ( No matter how big or small your influence or impact might be, just the very thought that you have eased somebodies burden is great).
See you around!
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reader, daletom +, writes (17 December 2008):
Yes, like some of the responses say, it's good to learn from your mistakes - but often more efficient to learn from others' mistakes.
Sometimes the best advice amounts to nothing more than providing a structured description of a situation and clarifying the underlying question or problem. Your original post provides an example of this, i.e., What sort of "feedback" are you looking for? Whether that is a smart (or dumb) topic for a paper? Examples where advice received here was especially good (or bad)? The kinds of problems where others' advice can help (or not)?
You might find something useful for your paper by going to the profile pages of some of the Forum members. Some of them have provided a personal description, including answers to the question "What qualifies you to give advice?". You can also see their "Column" - all of the threads where they have contributed.
Let us know how we can help you with your paper!
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reader, Sarahha +, writes (17 December 2008):
Some people have experienced things first hand, in these cases, they can provide the best help. When a person has overcome a challenge or struggle in life, their feedback is perhaps the most valuable information a person can get.
However, an open mind and a good heart is also valuable when it comes to getting help on important issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): There's a few important things to remember when giving advice:
Be sympathetic, even if the person has done something stupid. If you're not pleasant then they're not going to listen to you and will probably feel a lot worse than they already did.
Give the answer that will give the best long-term results - don't resort to quick fixes.
Give reasons for why you think someone should do something otherwise they won't understand and may reject your idea.
Tell people any obvious DON'Ts as well as DOs so they can avoid the problem recurring.
Use your own experiences to help you answer and to give examples for people to learn from.
Good luck with your paper =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): One thing to remember is that Advice is always subjective, which means that we cannot offer advice without putting our own thoughts and ideals of what is normal into the answer. For example, if you asked me whether your boyfriend should propose after being with you for three years, I might answer 'yes, he should either propose or you should end the relationship because he should know what he wants by now'. Whereas another person might answer 'No, you cannot put a time frame on happiness, some poeple are sure about the person they are with after 10 years, others after 6 months'. Basically, we all offer advice based upon our own idealistic views of the world, what we feel is right or wrong. Advice from 2 different people can eb dramatically different, and beither one right or wrong. It is up to the person who received the advice to make their own decisions, alongside other peoples perspectives. Very often, when we are asking for advice, we are asking for affirmation: to be told that what we are feeling is normal and others can understand why we are upset. It's actually an important part of feeling like a member of society. No-one wants to feel like they are alone when they are in despair, and reaching out to others can help to ease their pain. Best of luck with the project xxx
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reader, pinklollypop  +, writes (17 December 2008):
Hi could you please help me and reply to my question? wb pinklollypop!
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