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anonymous
writes:I met this guy about a year ago. Just a usual hi and by thing. He would come over to my place of employment every so often because he's a friend of one of my employees. Then I met this young lady who just recently graduated from college and is currently working in the same department however, another caterogry of the department. We became friends immediately. She coordinates trips, activities and events for single military and geo bachelors (married men or women but spouse that live in a different area or out of state). We would go to lunch and do other things together. Girl, stuff. However, I would see my employee's friend all the time when I visit my friend. Come to find out, he's attracted to me. I never thought of him in any way but friends because he's married. How I found out about this is by my friend. I thought she was just saying that but I guess it's true. I had asked him why he acted different when I am around. I thought it was because he just didn't know me as well as he knew her. So, basically, I put him on the spot. I asked him and he said," You are a beautiful woman and I sense there's an attraction between us but...." So, I cut him off and I said,"There will never be anything between us because you're married. It is true what you're saying however, it won't happen because of that fact." Now, that I said that, he's been really acting strange around me. But the thing is, I am starting to like this guy. He is trying to ignore me. I am debating whether or not to remain friends with this guy. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDaneilepew; Thank you for your advice.
One of the reasons why he's ignoring me is the fact of his personal problems he's having with his wife coming from him. I don't know maybe you're right but however, I am just going by what he's telling me.
He use to be so up and jittery around me but now, it's totally different.
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 October 2007):
 Don't mess with married men. It's wrong, shows disrespect for yourself, for the person he's married to. All though he shows you interest, you should have enough self respect to say "your married, I won't take part in hurting your wife". If you were the wife, you'd hope your marriage was respected.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 I don't think it's right or convenient to entertain thoughts about a married person. You have eyes and the attraction might be there, but you know it's not correct.
On the other hand, you cut him off somewhat bluntly. I don't think you have a chance with him. This is why he ignores you.
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