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*ammer69
writes:Got a good question for you. I'm still in contact with a number of girls that I used to like, with most of them we became friends. I'm very curious even though I have found a wonderful girl that I have asked to marry me. I still wonder if any of those girls ever liked me.I had an idea about asking them if they ever did, so my question is this: Should I ask them just to see if they ever liked me? And just to let you know I'm not doing it because I want to split from my fiance I just want to know if they did. And also if I do ask them should I tell my fiance i did it?
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reader, Deagan +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Life is full of so many unanswered questions. How about your question remains one of them?
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reader, bardia +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Your "curiosity" is one thing. That you want to actually contact them makes me think you're not ready for the committment of marriage. Even if you believe in your heart that you're just innocently curious, as someone already pointed out, you're opening Pandora's box and the temptation that comes with the contact you might make. Your fiancée should be the ONLY one for you, now & forever. If you're looking into old flames then maybe you really aren't ready to commit to your fiancée as your one & only. That's not fair to her & better to find this out before the wedding than after. If you truly loved her you would not go poking around with other women, no matter how "innocent" you may think it is. What if she was doing this with guys from her past? Commit or don't, but you'd better decide soon. Don't you dare jerk her around with this. All trust will be broken and then what kind of marriage will you have..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): "And just to let you know I'm not doing it because I want to split from my fiance I just want to know if they did."
We're not the ones you should be worried that might think that OP.
Some things are better left unsaid. Do you really want to know that a girl liked you until she got to know you better and decided you were only good for friendship? Do you really want one of these girls getting the wrong idea and thinking you're coming onto her and that getting back to your fiancé?
It's simple OP, it's possible one or two of them might have but nothing ever happened. You're now in a serious relationship with a woman you're going to marry and you're thinking about whether other girls like you? That doesn't make sense.
Here's the default. Some of them did, some of them didn't. You had your chance with some of them and you passed up on some of them or other guys got there first.
You need to ask yourself why you want to do this. Is curiosity really worth opening Pandora's Box?
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reader, mammer69 +, writes (8 February 2012):
mammer69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never went out with them infact i imagine that none of them even ever knew I liked them. but is just somehting I'm curious about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Honestly I can't understand the reason why you are asking yourself this question. They were exes. They all moved on, including yourself. You have a girlfriend you like, and you intend to marry one day too. And you have friednships with those girls you used to go out with...so why running the risk of ruining them? YOu should look to the future, and not ask questions about the past.
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