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writes:Im realizing that I'm starting to really like older men. I'm 16, however i fall for guys in their 20's-30's.. I'm falling in love with a personal trainer at the gym i go to. I try and go everyday, and when hes not there i become upset. I love seeing him, and i feel great when i go up and talk to him. i feel like i accomplished something amazing. I make up every excuse to go talk to him, even if its a stupid question to ask i just wanna talk to him one on one. Except, he's 22. And im pretty sure he wont be interested in a teenager, but i wanna try. How do I figure out if hes interested or not?? I've asked him to personally train me, and of course he said yes, he even said he'd give me a discount just for me. it was originally 150$, but he said only 50$! Sometimes i can feel him looking at me, but when i look up at him he looks away. My friend said she thinks she caught him checking me out, but who knows! Everytime he walks near me, i stop and just stare at him, i cant help it. I really think im in love with him. Theres just something about him. I dont think he'll ever like me, considering i found out he has a sister my age. That'd probably be weird for him, unless i lied and said i was older. but that wouldnt work, because i have to be 18 to sign up for training and he knows ive been trying to find someone to sign me up. He agreed to training me behind my parents back, since they dont want me doing it.. I cant tell if hes interested, help!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 April 2013):
 It's a crush and you are 16 if he is 22 he sees you as a cute kid nothing more..
and if he sees you as something more then the truth is by the time you are 18 you will be too mature for him.
I know it feels like more... but honey it's just a crush and it's not in your best interest to go after him.
a. he can go to jail if you are physical even if you consent
b. he can lose his job if he can't date clients or if he goes after an under aged girl... he's probably too smart to risk that.
wait 2 years and then when you are 18 and he's 24 if you still have the crush then you can ask him how he feels... not before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot a lot of girls seem interested in him though, every time i bring someone to the gym and show him to them, they dont think hes cute at all. He's short, and brocky, which is why i guess some girls dont find him attractive. But, i do. I really think this is more than a crush, ive never felt this way before..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 March 2013):
 No, don't " try " anything. This is a normal 16 years crush- let it ride out. Don't make yourself too obvious- or too obnoxious, your chances of " success " are abysmal.
Too much competition. Personal trainers have a fit body and a personable attitude, these are tools of the trade. So they catch the eye of many gymgoers, and they get hit on all the time,- like bartenders. There will be scores of girls his age who send him signals. Not to forget the older , still appetible ladies with cougar fever, and who better than a young,fit , discreet personal trainer for a foray in cougarland. I bet he can have his pick, and he is used to young admirers making googly eyes at him. If he is serious and professional he'll just politely pretend to ignore the attention, if he is not , he'll be a manwhore and will have a ball with half the gym .
With all this abundance, why should he complicate his life for messing up with an underage girl- he should be crazy.
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