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writes:I no this might sound really bad. But I am so confused right now!! I split with my ex over 3 years ago we have a child together. I have stayed close with his brother and with The brothers current partner. Me and the brother have always been flirty that’s just the way it’s always been all harmless and playful we would never dream of acting on it. But a month ago I was out at a pub and bumped into the brother and his partner the partner went to the lav. And the flirting stepped up 1000!times I reminded him how much I loved his gf and and told him to stop she would be back soon. He also said if he met me first it would all be different. If the gf was not there I don’t think I could of stopped him let alone myself. I no nothing good could come of this only hurt and drama. But I can’t stop thinking that one day we met up and something will happen what should I do help!!!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 December 2017):
 Think about your child and put them first. Don't get carried away with lust because believe me if you do you will regret it when it all unravels and effects your child. My child would be enough for me to stop temptation and to add extra measures don't go to pubs that he socializes in and cut back from meeting up with them as a couple.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (21 December 2017):
 Get a grip on yourself. You're not a horny teenager. You have a child and that too with this man's brother. What good can possibly come off this? Some sex? A few orgasms? Do you think this man who's so disrespectful of his own partner will care two hoots about you?
You need to set a positive example for your child. You're a mom, act like one. Have some dignity.
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reader, N91 +, writes (20 December 2017):
 Well the brother is already showing how much of a sleaze he is. On a night out with his partner and she's away for a few minutes and he's already trying to tap up another girl....what a catch.
If you are a friend of his gf also, why would this even enter your head? Can't be much of a friend to be having thoughts like this can you?
Like you said, nothing good will come of it so why entertain it? Get the thought out of your head, it's wrong on multiple levels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2017): Think about him all you like. Keep your hands off, he has a girlfriend. You didn't need to write a post about it. Just use some restraint and show some respect for his girlfriend.
You do things the minute her back is turned? Seriously?!!
Wait until you meet your karma, girlfriend!
You start off by saying this is really bad. So your vagina and sexual-impulses entitle you to take special liberties you wouldn't want her to take if he was your boyfriend? The typical cheater's-attitude; "better yours than mine, honey!"
Your interest is purely motivated by lust. I think you can conjure enough moral-decency and restraint to back-off.
Come on! Does it always have to turnout this way?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 December 2017):
 You know what to do. I'm just not sure you WANT to do what's right.
But, I will leave that up to you.
From where I stand you are enjoying the flirting and you see it as harmless - even though it ISN'T banter. It's DISRESPECTFUL to his partner and his relationship. (and I'm not just talking about what YOU are doing, he is obviously a willing participant and then ONE with a partner to disrespect.
Let me ask you this IF you had a partner and HE was doing what this guy is doing & saying, and you found out. HOW would you feel?
I bet you would feel like shit.
This woman has known you for over 3 years and she TRUSTS you. and WHAT do you do in return for that trust? Think about it.
But you are NOT the one being disrespected so you just "enjoy" the "fun".
Step away from this guy. If he is looking for "fun" or to cheat - DO NOT be "that" woman who will participate.
You need to put a lid on this. You need to back away.
Find yourself a single man (if that is what you are really looking for). Get your "attention fix" from someone who can do so without constraints.
You know if anything DID happen here, YOU would be the one everyone will point a finger at. The one who will be called all the names in the book (regardless of the fact that HE is the one with a partner).
You know this isn't right.
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