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writes:Im going to Ibiza with some friends for 2 wks this summer. Im 21, single and still a virgin and was thinking of having a (protected)'one night stand' while i am over there. Ive never tried anything like this before!Has anyone else ever lost there virginity while away like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): i lost my virginity to a random guy on holiday. i met him one night and he was lovely, we had alot of fun and we just instantly clicked. i went back to his room and, it wasnt like i planned on doing it, but we ended up having sex. we were safe and he didnt know i was a virgin we just had alot of fgun and i've got to admit i enjoyed it. and though to him i was probably just another notch on the belt, we both had a good night. he went home to day after this happened and i havent seen him again. this is most definatly not the ideal way to have your first time, but for me i wouldnt change it and i guess i was lucky to have found a decent guy, but there not all like that. listen to what everyone else has said, ibiza could be dangerous, so many people get spiked and raped so dont go out there with the intention to have sex, you'll appear easy and lads will take advantage. just have fun with your friends, if you meet a guy you like then who knows.. just dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with and be safe!!!
ps. i am most definitely not condoning losing your virginity on holiday, im just sharing my story..
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reader, 50william  +, writes (18 February 2010):
The REAL QUESTION is do you want to LOOSE it to a one night stand & be just another POA for him or SHARE it with a friend??
I hope you have a guy friend (not boyfriend or boy friend) who you can TRUST & TALK WITH (note I did not use 'to') about your virginity. This TRUST has to be built up over time!
Are you willing to discuss the following with him?
Birth control for both of you
Both of your sexual history's ( I am a virgin, are you a virgin & have you ever deflowered a virgin)
Both of your STD histoy's & status (Is he willing to got with you for testing & will both of you exchange youe reports?)
What do both of you want (a wham, bam, thank you mam; who does the 'walk of shame'; or I want to have coffee with you in the morning)
LAST & MOST IMPORTANT: Can you look him in the eyes & say "I am a virgin & I want to SHARE my virginity with you"
If you choose a friend there are 2 risks, your friendship will forever change & if he is not a TRUE FRIEND he may talk.
Even 30+ years later I wish I shared with a friend instead of finding a POA!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Trust us honeypie. Go and have a lovely holiday with your friends. Don't drink too much. The sun will be out, there's ton's of young English speaking people over there. Don't plan to have sex, but you might meet someone nice, you might even find you meet someone who lives near enough for you to continue to contact. What happens, happens, but don't make plans, go and have fun, and if holiday romance comes along, then be careful, and make sure the guy is worthy of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to read my question and for sharing your thoughts and advice. Your answers and advice have definitely awoken a sense of awareness bout all the potential risks involved in what i was planning on doing. I dont think id really considered them beforehand.Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): I lost my virginity to a one nigt stand and I regret it deeply, and although we used protection ... i ended up pregnant. I feel blessed that i was given such a gift as a child out of one of my biggest mistakes of my life but still, if i could take it back and lose my virginity to someone i loved, cared about or even knew ... then personally i would. Pick a friend, date a guy ... anything but losing it to a random stranger. For me, it hurt and i cried and felt so unloved and unworthy. If you decide to go through with it then brace yourself for any emotions or consequences that may come but i hope that you wait for someone who is special to you.
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (29 January 2010):
I wouldnt recommend this! Your first time is going to require some extra special attention because of the "breaking in process". If its not important who you lose it to, pick a friend or someone you know somewhat. Be careful there are a lot of sick people out there and this can be dangerous
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 January 2010):
First time sex with some stranger in Ibiza!!!!!!!! Very dangerous, I've been there, they party hard down there.. It's "orgy city".... Many girls have been raped there, drink is cheap, sex is all over the place, people get the wrong idea. What happens if you pick some guy, and you change your mind but he refuses to listen. What happens if he brings his friends along?
Not trying to scare you, but Ibiza and many of them other European places can be very, very wild... For instance, once got trapped on a boat, with some mad people who thought it was fun to strip one of the young teenagers, they tried to get us all drunk and encouraged us to join in their sex games... Unfortunately, I weren't having any of it, and me and my friend spoiled their fun. Turned out to be a lovely trip in the end, the crew were unhappy but the 20 odd teenagers that were hiding behind me, shaking in their shoes felt relieved.
Sex... Ibiza!!! First Time!!!! Very, very dangerous. I suggest you don't go anywhere alone with any guy, make sure that you and your friends are together at all times. Watch your drink carefully, don't drink to much and don't take drink off strangers, guys have been known to put pills in them to make you unconscious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): So you are planning on having your first time sex with someone who only sees you as nothing more than a woman to f*ck. Your feelings are the last thing on his mind, all he will be concerned about is his own pleasure...
If you are thinking of doing this, why give it away for free - why not charge him for the pleasure????
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 What is also of cocern, is that you might get a guy who has little regard for you under the circumstances and may not care to take it as slow and gently as you might need him to. I would hate for it to end up more painful than neccessary, perhaps traumatizing you in the process.
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reader, Evans  +, writes (29 January 2010):
If you have hopes to be married one day, this would be a precious gift to your man during your honeymoon. If you think otherwise, go for it but don,t beat yourself later. You were able to take good care of yourself for 21 good years only to let it go like this?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2010):
Read all the posts on here about women who have lost their virginity in a one night stand and gone on to really regret it, because they realize that it meant nothing to the guy. You'll regret it if you do it. Wait for someone who cares about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): I think a person is better off having first time sex with a person who really cares about you.
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