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writes:It's approaching my 16th birthday and Im considering having sex with my longterm boyfriend, however I'm extremely worried about the pain.The non-virgins among my friends have all said it hurt and Im really scared.Is there anything I do to help with the pain? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): The only time it hurts is when he enters your vagina. The day after you might be a little sore, but once it is in there, there will be no problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Don't stress about it, the more relaxed you are the more comfortable the experience will be! I personally didn't feel much pain and I didn't bleed either, it was just a bit uncomfortable. If you tell your boyfriend to be very gentle and go slow and make sure he 'warms you up' first, you should be fine! Trust me, if it hurt that bad no-one would ever do it would they? xxx
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reader, beutifullybrokenhearted  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 So, what you do is make sure he knows what he's dealing with here. If he knows that you're a virgin, he'll be understanding if you tell him that you can't do it. No matter how scared you are, stay completely relaxed and don't tense up no matter how badly it hurts cause that's what makes you bleed if you don't already. You also have to know that you're gonna end up sleeping with some one eventually and if you want it to be him, then go for it but be sure that he's the right one and you wont end up regretting everything later. Don't be scared and just have fun. =) Ohh, and use protection cause you don't wanna kid ya'll.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): To me, it only hurt when he put his penis in. After that, it felt nice. I was lubricated though, because I was relaxed. I also didn't bleed. But it varies from person to person. Just remember that the more relaxed you are, the better it will be. Tell your boyfriend to be gentle, if he's a virgin he may not really know what he's doing. However, after the first time it should feel better every time. Just be relaxed, and you'll be okay. It hurts, but not as much as some people say it does.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (2 May 2008):
 1st of all, i'm glad your with the law on havin sex at 16.
all i can advise you to do is take it slow, talk to each other with havin sex, if he goes too fast and its hurtin then tell him to slow down, also use protection and maybe take the mornin after pill.
as some will say on here, its not the same for everyone, eg some it will hurt more than others and some it wont hurt as you may think.
just go slow and talk to each other while doin it. hope this helps and happy 16th birthday to you, all the best :)
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