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writes:Hey, whats up everyone????Anyways, I've been going out with this girl for the longest, cut a long story short I love her and she loves me... we broke up cause I cheated on her we didn't talk for 5 months she came back to me and well yeh I don't know if she's scared to get back with me or what? I am steadily asking her do you want me as a friend or a lover and she still won't till this day answer my question but it's okay, I don't know, I guess time will show the true answer but if you have any suggestions please lemme knowThanx,
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Hi there,It is very difficult for a girl to get back into a relationship with a guy who cheated on her. She may not want to get back with you because she is scared and may wonder, what if he cheats on me again. However, since you care about her, on thing you can do is talk to her by having her sit down with you one on one and talk to her about how you really feel about her, ask her if she would like to give you another chance or remain friends, and tell her that what you did was wrong and that she can trust you again. It will be difficult for her to forgive you and have her trust you again by doing this.IF that does not work, then write to her. Express how you feel in a note or letter. Who knows, maybe she might respond, maybe she won't.I wish you the best of luck. If it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be, and you will have to move on, and it takes time to do so. Good luck.
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (18 February 2008):
 It is hard for a girl to forgive a guy that has cheated on her, number one. Number 2, girls get scared to get back into a relationship with someone who has loved them and cheated on them. I would not be surprised if she doesn't want to get back with you because of the fact that you cheated on her; however, since you really like her and you do want to talk to her, the first thing I would do is try to sit her down and have her listen to you. You need to tell her how you really feel and how much she means to you and then tell her what you did was stupid and wrong.If she doesn't want to talk, and sometimes in this case, it may be difficult to talk to her, then write her a note or letter expressing how you feel. You leave her three choices in the letter: 1) To give you another chance, 2) To be friends 3) Walk awayI hope this helps you. You seem like a nice guy and there are plenty of girls looking for someone. Hopefully, it will work out, and if not, you may have to move on, which would be difficult since you really care about her, but at least you let her know how you feel.
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (18 February 2008):
OH WOW!!!! Okay, first of all, it is very difficult for a girl to forgive and trust a guy she loved who cheated on her. For a girl, a man who cheats is mostly not worth it for a relationship, and it also may be scary for a girl to get back into a relationship with someone who thought loved her and cheated on her. Since you really like her, I would talk with her and tell her how special she is to you and admit that you were wrong and that you want to be with her. You also mentioned that you left an option for her to just be friends, so then again, talking to her may be a good idea. A relationship as friends would not hurt. However, if that does not work, and talking may sometimes may be difficult, then you can write her something and send it to her expressing how you truly feel and then leave her the options of 1) being with you again, 2) friends, or 3) not go back with you.Don't give up because i'm sure there are a lot of girl looking, and hopefully you'll find someone new.
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reader, MIss_congeniality  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 HI, im sorry to hear this.Well it is very difficult for a girl to forgive and to trust a guy once he has cheated has girls think once a guy has cheated once he will do it agian, so somehow you need to prove to this girl that she means everything to you and you need to prove that you will never chaet again, this is very difficult because you need to gain her trust again so the best thing to do is to sit her down one day and tell her exactly how special she is and what she means to you, tell her how stupid you were for cheating ann that you never meant to hurt her and it was one big mistake that you repeat again, if you dont feel like you getting anywhere, write it down in a letter and then give it to her, sometimes talking to people is harder than you think, but they also say that words have a way back to a womans heart, and at least she can read it rather than hear it. She then has 3 choices, 2 leave you, or to be with you, or stay friends with you.Friends are better than nothing right? however if she wants nothing to do with you anymore it will hurt for a while, but you are still very young and have the rest of your life ahead of you and besides there are plenty of lasses out there looking for a guy like you.Hope this has helped take care!
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (18 February 2008):
 you cheated on her and you broke her heart hun!she doesnt no where she stands and yeah she is scared because she doesnt no what will happen if she gets back with you she will be asking herself what if he does it again?you would feel the exact same way she is in love with you but she is vunerable you have to show heryou will not hurt her againif you still love her tell her and you will have to promise to be there for her and that you will not cheat on her againgood luck!!!!!
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