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writes:So I work with someone who I find attractive. I have never led her on or flirted with her. I am in a happy relationship and she is married. But sometimes I have to work with her and sometimes she will touch me or make light conversation about my current relationship. Does this person seem interested in me? Not sure of the work relationship and maybe she is just a friendly person who means no harm.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 November 2017):
 Like I said in the last part of my advice...
You do not have to talk to her about your relationship, it's OK to say I like to keep my private life private. And if she is a VERY touchy feeling and that makes you uncomfortable, just move out of reach. Sooner or later she will get the hint.
No need to call her out unless she is being inappropriate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow! I guess maybe I sent the wrong message and got roasted for it. It's seems people here are very quick to judge negatively. Lesson learned. (I) will not ask for advice here again. I never once said I wanted to act upon this at all. I am trying to figure out if this girl is just friendly or is after something else. If it is friendly that's OK but I AM NOT LOOKING FOR SOME OFFICE FLING. I have to maintain a working relationship with this person and would be very awkward if I called her out or said I could not work with her. This person is in a position of higher authority than me! Yes she is an attractive woman and is it wrong to say that if I am in a relationship? I think not and I am sure everyone has thought that about someone outside of their own relationship. I never once thought about cheating on my girlfriend or would. I was asking for opinion of what may or may not be going on before I say something to this individual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2017): I'm wondering WHY you're even asking this question when you're "happy" in a relationship and your co-worker is married???
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (2 November 2017):
 Work place relationships are frowned upon because of the havoc they can reek. Having an affair with a co-worker?? Even more in the "Duh don't do it" zone. Have you considered the repercussions of this situation if she was interested and got involved? You BOTH could wind up being fired if things don't go right. Come on guy..she's married, you have a partner. Are you just bored?? I wonder how your partner would feel if she knew what you were thinking? How would you feel if she had these kinds of thoughts? I doubt if you'd like it. IF you don't want your partner, then have the dignity to end things. I still wouldn't go after a co-worker. Those situations never end well. Think man!
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 November 2017):
 Oh Man, grow up for god sake.
If you're truly in the age bracket you state and you're honestly wanting to proceed down this path when:
1. You're in a relationship
2. She's married
Then you my friend are an asshole. How are you in a 'happy relationship' if you're considering cheating? Maybe ask your GF for advice and see what she thinks on your dilemma?
All I can say is I feel sorry for your partner. If you want to look elsewhere then an least try to keep a shred of dignity by breaking up with her first. Stick to single females also, don't be a complete dick trying to bring down other people's relationships with your own.
Im truly baffled as to what advice you're expecting? For people to tell you to go right ahead and dive into an affair?
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (2 November 2017):
 Erm? You're in a happy relationship but you want to do the dirty on your girlfriend for a CRUSH at work?? AND break up a marriage??
It doesn't work like that. You LEAVE your gf if you're unhappy/don't love her- NOT chase after skirt at work, and have your cake and eat it back at home in your "happy" relationship
It doesn't really matter whether you ask her out- you'll either be left feeling like a fool or you'll end up living a life of lies destroying people's lives. My advice to you is please leave your girlfriend whatever you do- because you don't care about her wrecking people's marriages. She deserves more
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 November 2017):
What's the point, OP?
The give yourself a little ego-boost?
SHE is married... YOU are in a relationship. WHATEVER she might or might not "feel" is irrelevant. It's a place you don't want to go. Treat her as you would ANY other coworker with professionalism and great attitude and put away the "does she like me?" conundrum...
Though to answer your question. She is more than likely being friendly. You owe her no relationship tidbits and if she is "too" tactile just move away a foot or so when she tries to touch you.
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