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writes:My boyfriend sometimes seems like when were not hanging out, it seems like he doesn't like me. Like when we talk on the computer (I know sometimes you can't really tell how people mean to say things) but on the computer, he seems mad at me or like he likes me less. But when we hang out in person he's always really nice to me and happy to see me. I don't get it and it really hurts the way he treats me when we're not hanging out. Like the other day I commented him on myspace saying, "Sorry I started watching a movie and fell asleep" because we were in the middle of a conversation and I didn't answer him. Then he just said, "Wtf? lol" And I really don't get it? I was trying to be nice and he was just.... it seemed mean. I don't know if I'm over reacting but he's always less-friendly to me when we're not hanging out, even on the phone. Should I end the relationship?
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reader, kaui57 +, writes (21 October 2008):
I wouldn't end the relationship only based on what you wrote. There are some people who don't know how to converse over the internet or telephone. A lot of people don't realize how easy it is to give the wrong impression when writing to people online. The person receiving the message may take the message as rude and hurtful. The truth of the matter is that there are people that don't know how to communicate when they aren't in front of the person they want to speak with. Try not to take it to heart. If he's nice to you in person then maybe that's the best way he knows how to communicate with you. Talk to him about the way he acts on the telephone/internet and see what he says. Maybe he's not aware of the way he converses with you.
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reader, aoeheals  +, writes (21 October 2008):
I've had this happen, too. When you're on the computer, you're multitasking like mad. You tend to be a bit shorter with your answers to each other unless your both focused on a one/one chat with no distractions. I wouldn't sweat it. If he's happy with you IRL, you're all set ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): this sounds like how i get. maybe you're just paranoid and you just want to be with him all the time. maybe you take things the wrong way and he doesn't mean to sound how you think. maybe you're just misinterpreting what he's saying. but ask him about it. let him know how he makes you feel. don't end it yet because you're not sure. just find out and you'll be fine. good luck babe
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reader, getright11 +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Noo, do not end it. becuase on the internet you seem to be getting differnt impressions of your boyfriend you cant always tell when a person is mad over the computer. so how about you discuss this with him, and he how he feels about it rather than just asuming...
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