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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:First let me give you some history. I have known X since I was 5 yrs old our families were close and all of us kids grew up together there was 8 of us I was the only girl.We were all about the same age give or take a few yrs.I had a crush on X from the beginning but of course never said anything.When we got older like 13 14 yrs old I sensed maybe he liked me too.But of course nothing was said, one day when i was 15 I was at his house and I called my boyfriend at the time D who broke up with me so I was sad X tried to cheer me up he put on the radio and we were dancing then a slow jam came on LL COOL J singing hey lover we were dancing real close but me in my scared little mind pulled back and told him i was sleepy,We never said anything about 3 months later he got locked up and he decided to tell me how he felt I would go see him write to him all that eventually he was sentenced to 8 yrs in prison I was 15 he was 17. I did keep up the writing 4 a while too then when I was 17 I met the man who is now my husband E.When I was 18 I met the girl who is now my best friend she also was at the time J who also happens to be X's girlfriend.Well ME AND HER GOT PREG AT THE SAME TIME AND GREW CLOSE. I stayed with E she cheated on j J. Well X gt out of prison when I was 23 and came to my house I told him i loved E and avoided him at all costs. Any ways and me and my best friend had a falling out when I was 22.When I was 24 my husband cheated on me and we decided to get back 2 gether.FAST FORWARD NOW i AM 27 YRS OLD...i HAVE 3 KIDS she has 2 somehow now shes with X and we are all friends.The whole little crew ya know the 8 of us that have known each other for 22 yrs told me that X still loved me EVEN MY BEST FRIENDS MALE COUSIN told me that bcuz they said he was always talking about me I refused to believe but after spending time with him those old feeling came rushing back and somehow it started with a stolen kiss here and there till we finally slept together. We both want to keep our significant others from finding out,Him because shes very vindictive and she already keeps J's son away from j and she will do it to him.Before we started this little affair he'd tell me that he should have stayed after me, and maybe we'd be together and I do admit if he had not went away we would probably be together he said he's with her because she's the only one who was ever there for him,shes known him since childhood too.But when I see them together you can tell he's miserable my own husbands told me that X is not in love with her everyone can tell.But he does love her.So now I am so confused I do love E but I am not sure if its just love of being with him 4 10yrs or if i am still in love with him but I do know I cant stop thinking of X wtf am I gonna do?
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (16 August 2008):
Affairs have little or nothing to do with Love,as I see it.And Affairs are nothing more than a physical,real-life fantasy. A kind of mental Porn to stimulate one's sexuality. But like a puff of smoke, it won't be there for you in the long-haul. So stick with the man in your life who can give you more than just your one-time fling, who used you once,and no doubt he will be happy to use you again.
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reader, Regina Souza  +, writes (16 August 2008):
Girl, make sure you don't do anything STUPID!!!!! Many people take decisions without thinking. People change so as time. I am a GREAT believer THAT THINKS HAPPEN FOR A REASON!! You have kids that depend on you until they will become mature enough to take care of their own lives, therefore, this is not about you anymore... I AGREE that people deserve to be HAPPY but, sometimes, we pay a HIGH price for something that, we all know , we will NEVER going to achieve 100% of it. Always we will be looking for more...
Take a time to RECAP all the NEGATIVE and POSITIVE things that has happened since you have been married, then, do the same with your "FRIEND" It's WORTH IT??! Ask GOD FOR GUIDANCE, he the ONLY person that knows what is BEST for US. Talk to him, open your heart, your soul, BELIEVE ME you will fell MUCH BETTER!! TAKE CARE!!
MY BEST WISHES TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
Regina
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