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writes:Began as FWB and i was in love with him, i wanted to be with him so bad and this goes on for a very long time. He always stated he didn't want a girlfriend ect. he's been hurt in the past...Then it started to change a bit and now he is turned into wanting to be with me, clingy, needed, smothers me with love and affection and is insecure and i don't know when the change came or why and now i am not sure what i want. i am turned off by the way he acts like a girl. I get frustrated and irritable and confused. Isn't this what i always wanted? why don't i want it now? what do i do ? Don’t get me wrong I love him but it feels different now.It sounds so harsh and no one understands
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reader, unanswered +, writes (17 August 2008):
unanswered is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. And your right i need to sit him down and assure him that everything is fine, i love him, i am not going anywhere and i appricate how sweet, kind, loving he is and reassure him and maybe he's smothering ways will cool off.
This is a 3 yr situation and i just would hate to end it now but i would hate to stay and be unhappy as well.
i will just let it play out.
thanks again
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reader, Wasteaway  +, writes (17 August 2008):
Maybe ask him what he wants in a nice way. Like if your that close say "Whats a matter hun?" when he seems down or see whats bothering him. It takes awhile for a guy to get used to this kind of attention and his past might be bugging him and he is scared he might lose you. Thats how I was at first but I realized I had nothing to worry about.
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reader, scorpio123  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hey there,
You said "you're turned off by the way he acts like a girl",
Maybe this is all because you were attracted to the only side of him you knew, you didn't know he had this side to him.
And now you see it and you don't feel as attracted to him anymore.
And yes it feels different, but if you love him, why don't you start a relationship with him and see what happens?
It may just take a while for you to get over feeling turned off by this new side to him.
Maybe it will work maybe it won't.
I definately think if you love him you should give it a shot. :)
Good luck xx
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