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writes:Ok here goes, im 35 yr old woman who has been on 7 dates with a 44 yr old man, we met thru a course, and hit it off. he added me on fb and it went on from there.Due to his job he works long hours so i have only been seeing him once a week.It always seems to be me that texts him every couple of days but he always replies back straight away. He comes across as a bit of a loner and maybe a tad shy.He came over sat just, drove thru bad snow to chill at mine with pizza then had to leave as he had work at 7am sun morn. We have not slept together and the only time i get a kiss is when he is leaving. I have not heard off him since mon when i text him.Am i wasting my time here is he "just not that into me?"all opinions gratefully received.
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reader, Mazy +, writes (24 December 2010):
Mazy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all for your comments so far, Eddie 5 months?? only been on 7 dates with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): ~LACK OF COMMUNICATION~It sounds like the guy genuinely likes, respects and enjoys your company.With respect to the texting issue, I'm guessing he's probably not a text addict, as has become most humanoids ((lol)) as I had a spell of that in my past, although not anymore...It seems he's more of a face to face communicator.Also, as far as intimacy, well...ignore the stereotype that it it's the man who must initiate. Perhaps he hasn't initiated it, because he is a complete gentlemen...or due to religious reasons...or because he's shy ((men are human to and so aren't exempt from shy))...or perhaps he doesn't know where the relationship is, stands...The solution here...speak with him about this query and I'm sure it will make him feel more comfortable as well.God Bless.
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reader, _nataliebeebaybee1 +, writes (24 December 2010):
 By the sounds of it , he obviously is an independant person. Hes quite old and mature so he can look after himself. Maybe hes taking this relationship very slow and hes being reserved because of past bad experiences. Get what im saying ? I dont think you should give up on this gut because he obviously looves you if he drove all that way in the snow and left quite late also. Give him time , space and be kind. maybe after a few more weeks you can consider asking where the whole things going ! be patient he could be a good catch in the making ! xxxx
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Something isn't quite right here. After 5 months and you barely hug / kiss?
I have a feeling he is taking things slow (perhaps too slow), since you describe him as being shy. Perhaps he is religious or a Catholic upbringing which makes it difficult to initiate sex / romance.
It sounds like he treats you nice and is responsive to your communication, but it also sounds like you want more.
It's time for a talk with the guy and find out where you stand with him. Are you in a committed relationship and if so where do you go from here. Also, are you into him? You don't really say, but perhaps he's waiting for a similar response from you.
Good luck.
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