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writes: I am bring driven crazy by a girl at work!! We recently took a liking to each other, and have been on a couple of dates. I suggested, that for our next date, we could stay out in the city all night and get a hotel room. I promised to be on my bestest behaviour as I am not that type of guy. She replied with 'What makes you think that I'll behave?' and gave a cheeky smile and a wink. She said we should definately do it. On the night we were meant to have our night out she said that she wasnt feeling well, which she wasnt as everyone could tell. She said that we should do it on the Saturday instead, which I thought was fine, as it was only the next day. So I sorted everything for Saturday and earlier on in the day she said that she couldnt wait to see me. I told her I had sorted everything out and booked us a room for later. She went crazy! Saying 'why didnt you check with me first!?' and 'what if I didnt want to stay out all night!?' What? I did check with her and everything. Now I feel she isnt talking to me. She wont answer my calls or texts. Im so confused. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): Don’t worry so much, just leave here a message, and tell her that you’re ready to talk when she’s ready explain to her what you were thinking and that you didn’t plan on moving too quickly; From this point leave the rest to her, give her a bit of space not too much if things don’t work out, you never know it might be for the best. What ever you do don’t live to please women most of them will only take advantage of you if you do, be kind and confidant; if there is a problem pick the right time to, communicate, that’s the key.
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reader, dogpound4012 +, writes (11 September 2006):
Does sound a bit strange,If you really want to continu let go and keep trying to see her.If she avoids you,there's your answer.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (10 September 2006):
 hmmm sounds to me like theres something else going on here!
some personal reason why she couldnt or didnt want to maybe thinking shed have to follow up on what she said!
i dont think its anything that you did!
if you really like her tell her not to worry about it you would still love to go out with her and if she wants to tell you what the problem was youl listen and you genuinely didnt mean to upset her!
but tread carefully she may be just a bit crazy and nuerotic!and thats up to u if you wanna get involved with someone like that im sure youl be on here ALOT if u do!!!!!
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006): you need to either give her a bit of space after her little outburst or have it out with her straight off, ask what her problem was. maybe she wanted to be in control and get the date organised so she knew the plans before you did...or maybe she is just a flirt, not ready for a proper date with you. either way i think you should chill the beans a bit and let her realise her loss. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006): well maybe you came on too strong. offering up a hotel room after just a couple of dates may give off the wrong impression. it may make her uncomfortable and a little bit unsure of your intentions. as for her saying yes to it, perhaps she felt obligated? as women, often times we feel as though we are supposed to say yes to things we may even be uncomfortable with, as not to hurt the other persons feelings. if i were you, i'd apologize about the hotel room, and say that next time, you'll do whatever she's comfortable with. good luck.
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reader, Angel_A +, writes (10 September 2006):
 Does sound a bit strange - perhaps she just got cold feet and was flustered, or maybe the fact that she'd not felt well the day before meant she was still feeling a bit fragile and again got flustered at you arranging the night out.
It sounds like it's best to give her some space for a while and just wait and see what happens? You've tried to find out via text and calling and if she's not replied to those then I'd say try and leave things as they are, or you might come across as a bit pushy which would probably turn her off anyway?
Good Luck!
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