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writes:I sometimes have difficulty reaching orgasm with my new girlfriend. I've been seeing her a month and feel very comfortable with her. Last night for example though, she cooked dinner, which I really enjoyed and we had a wonderful evening relaxing together. I found she wanted to start getting physical before I was really in the mood. I deferred to her though because I was so relaxed I was happy to do anything - maybe she'd put some Rohypnol in my wine?!Anyway, we got undressed and got on the bed and she started tossing me off and it was really good and sexy and everything but I felt like I kept coming up against a barrier to orgasm even though I really wanted come all over her and the more I was aware of this the harder it was to come. :( I ended up sliding her knickers off and f***ing her p*ssy, which did the trick.I would like to come a lot more easily with her. I wonder whether it's because I'm not excited enough about her? I find myself fantasising about bigger t1ts and harder nipples and more smiles and eye contact and facial communication when we're having sex. Fantasising about something else isn't really what I want long term. Any advice on some positive action I could take?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Hhmmmm. I'm not sure that you are ever going to find someone who makes you stop fantasizing all together, but perhaps what you are feeling here is that you aren't really in love with this woman? Maybe your just not that into her... I would try to establish more of a relationship and connection, which seems to be what you are missing, before you sleep with a partner.
Roofies? Really? If that were truly the case, that's kind of a frightening woman. If you were a woman and the situation were reversed, that would kind of be date rape, my friend. She's not really a great candidate for a long term relationship, unless you like controlling or abusive relationships. Run far, far away...
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