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writes:i am cheating on my husband with one of our friends... it has been going on for the past three years. but we never had slept. we only kiss. but i dont know how to stop. it's like i am addicted to him Reply to this Question
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reader, secret +, writes (13 March 2010):
secret is verified as being by the original poster of the question hi guys just wanted to updated on this situation...me and lover stopped talking since september but i still miss him every single day and not a day goes by without me calling to his mobile to hear his voice...the reason we dont talk is that he accused me of cheating on him..the cheek..and that hurt me so much and i thought u let him grovel and wait for his apology but till now nothing came...i dont want to force him back into my life but i love him so much and will forgive him but he refuses to answer my calls and dont wanna come back to me..what can i do i love him.,.he is my soulmate...i never never loved anyone in my life like i love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): If you do cheat on your husbsnd with his friend and have his friend's baby you are making a fool of your husband. I would expect that you will not leave your husband for his friend because his friend does not want the responsibility of you as his wife. You will therefore have his friends baby and tell your husband it is your husband's baby. You and your husband's friend will be laughing at your husband as a fool. You will continue to sleep with your husband's friend because you will lose all respect for your husband. You will feel that your husband is less of a man than his friend. Then you will feel your husband is not a man at all. He will become sexually inadequate in your eyes. you both will laugh at him . You will come to ultimately despise your husband as a man. You and his friend may ultimately tell him to his face that he isn't a man at all ,just a cuckold.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): Do you really want to stop? I don't think so. If you really wanted to "cheat" on your husband, you would hve slept with the other man by now.
I think you are caught up in the excitement of doing something naughty without your husband's knowlege and therefore without his permission.
There is also the thrill of not getting caught.
You also may want to punish your husband for whatever slight of the day he may present.
All in all , it seems that your problem is not cheating ,it is a lack of maturity. If you ewant to cheat,THEN CHEAT! You just want to be naughty,little girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): Dear I'm Cheating,
Whether we can see it or not, the answer to our questions of cheating are right under our noses. The reasons that we cheat are broken down into 3 different catergories. the first is "i'm unhappy but am too chicken to break off the relationship that is permanent". Feeling this way only means one thing. You have an image problem. You don't want other people to see that you aren't perfect. And YES! People will talk. But why should you care about what they think when they don't care about your feelings when they are talking about you? YOUR FEELINGS ARE WHAT MATTERS!!! And if you don't start thinking that way, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life. The second Catergorie is the "I like being sneaky, and seeing what i can get away with even if it means putting my marriage in jeopardy". This my friend, is not permiscious in any way. You just use sex or kissing as your "NO NO" because you have more brains to know breaking the law will land you in the slammer, and sex won't.. unless you're getting paid for it. A lot of us have the "sneaky" problem, and a great and usually succesfull way to deal with this is simple. Be sneaky WITH your man!!!! Have sex somewhere where you could get caught easily. Make a movie and put it on the internet or sell it Paris Hilton style! Or just simply ask your man to give 2 girls a shot in bed. Him, you, and huh! another woman!? Hey, if you are down for sneaken, you are drown for threesen. The last catergorie of cheating is that you are confused on who is the one for you. this is when you must take a step back... for your safety. The last thing you want to do is get pregnant by someone you don't know how you feel about. Think of the child you possibly could make growing up without a father.
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reader, secret +, writes (27 November 2006):
secret is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for people who have send me your advices. i tried telling the other person to be stronger and not answers my calls or anything but he does it for few days and contact me again saying the he cant be away from me and i feel the same!!!!
i long to see him and gets really jealous when other girls chats him and to make the matter worse i asked him to give me his child and he said yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): Oh my dear...
I think i know exactly how you feel as I've gone through the same situation. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 3 years.
I am still not over the other guy. But I knew that i couldnt take that any further as I do cherish my bf a lot and didnt want to hurt him. That s why i promised myself never tell him about this. I know it s difficult as your partner is the person you trust and should be true to each other... although i also believe that sometimes there is truth that are better to be kept for yourself.
I knew i couldnt stop by myself. So what I did - I asked him to tell me to stop... because i know i am not strong enough... but we both knew we didnt want to carry on with this as it might get out of our control and we dont want to hurt my bf.
So if you are not strong enough ... then ask this other person to ask you to stop.
Good luck!
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reader, Prada +, writes (27 November 2006):
Okay well you have to think of how you would feel if you were your husband.if you reakky want it to stop then you need to tell him.or you need to leave him but you cant keep going like thid=s cuz its not fair to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006):
You stop by making sure that you dont put yourself in a situation where it can occur again.
After all you are only human. After you are alone in his presence what choice do you have but to kiss him!
So dont have contact, dont go where he will be. Keep the husband around. Send him a letter with your intentions.
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (27 November 2006):
have you asked yourself why you did it?
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