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writes:My problem is that i'm bisexual, i haven't told her about me and my mom thinks that it's wrong. And yes, i know tht its wrong.. but i've dated 3 girls and more guys thn 7. Should i tell her? she might kick me out or tell my whole family and my aunt will report it to the newspaper. what should i do?????? :( i need HELPPPP Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Just don't tell her then. What's the big problem? I'm also bisexual, yet close to no one in my family knows. Not because I keep it a secret, it's just really none of their business who I fall in love with, nor have it been brought up. Unless you are going to MARRY a woman I wouldn't see the point in telling your family. Especially as you know they wouldn't be comfortable about it.
I think you are overestimating this thought, the newspaper probably will have more interesting news to report than the news of "Malaysian girl admits to being bisexual! Read all about it".
You are what you are, but no need to broadcast it. Keep your sexuality to yourself unless it is impossible to keep it a secret. For all you know you might end up marrying a man, a man you love and adore, and then there will be no problem at all. So don't take any sorrows in advance.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 I'm sorry your country is so homophobic. You say you've been with more guys than girls, so focus on the guys when you talk to your parents and family. I hate to say this, but since you're bi and are also attracted to guys, your life will be a lot easier in your country if you stay with them. Don't tell your family about the women you've been with, there's no point in wrecking your life over it. What would telling them accomplish? While the there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to the same sex and it's the people who are narrow minded about it who deserve 20 years in jail and the floggings, that's not the reality in your country.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Gawd, Cindy that's HORRID thanks for that info... sometimes I forget how lucky I am to live where my brother can marry his lover and I can live with my man....OPENLY.
hugs to the OP
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Why would anyone report your sexual preference to the newspapers?
Secondary, if you don't feel you are ready to share it don't.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 OP, your flag says Malaysia and if you are really from there, unluckily you already know what you should do : keep your mouth shut and watch your step - be careful.
Malaysia is one of the most homophobic countries in the world and there homosexuality is punished by law - with flogging and up to 20 years in jail.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2012):
it's not wrong.
it is what it is.
your aunt would report it to the newspapers? do they publish a list of people and their sexual orientation?
your sex life is no one's business but your own.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 The only way you can be happy is to be true to yourself. It seems harsh that your mum would kick you out and your aunt report it to the newspaper.
Being bi-sexual is not wrong by any means, it may be frowned upon in your culture, but you can't help how you feel!!!
If you're really worried, then it may be best to just keep it to yourself for now, at least until you have saved up enough money to support yourself if you do get kicked out of your house.
Some people are so narrow minded. I wish you the best of luck :)
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