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writes:This sounds mad I know, but I am being bullied at work.The trouble is its my boss (who is also my husband) We have not been married long (6 months) and worked together for years before this and never had any trouble. I dont know what to do, he constantly makes me look an idiot in front of the other staff and makes me cry all the time. I am getting in such a state, that I doubt myself, and I feel I cant do my job anymore. I tried to talk to him about it but he just says "ignore me" and I cant. What am I going to do? I feel like my life is a complete mess! I love him so much, why is he doing this to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answers. We dont own the buisness, hie does along with his ex mother and father in law. I have nothing to do with the ownership.
I agree that if I dont do something our marriage wont last! He is fine at home, although he has changed into being very misserable lately, but that is because of pressure of trying to save the company. from going down the pan. He used to be my best friend, but I have become someone he can just kick at work? I doubt myself all the time because I am so stressed, and I am making stupid mistakes that I normally wouldnt. If he carries on I will walk out, thats all I can do. Its strange how he has changed, but I guess I we have had a lot to deal with. I am recovering from breast cancer and my Dad was really ill last year, so maybe I cant take as much as I normally can. Thank you all so much x
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 I would make anonymous contact with his superior to comment on his treatment of the employees. If you two are in your own business then I would make this very clear to him that you can and will file harassment charges if he continues this. Hopefully you can work this out in the home but you can't be afraid to deal with this as if he was not your husband.
I don't want to jump to conclusions but if this is how he treats you I can't see the marriage lasting.
If he is like that to everyone then he could just be a dick of a boss but he has to understand that if you are feeling that way then others may be too.
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reader, CrystalMaze +, writes (21 February 2012):
Theres a saying, "Work and relationships dont mix", because you never have a break from one another. Tell him how you feel and maybe try and get a position somewhere else. After all, you are the woman. The women rule the house ;) ....
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 in most locations you can't be a subordinate to a spouse. I am assuming you guys own the business....
if not go to his supervisor and request a transfer or better yet find a new job in a new company.
sounds like he's trying to not show favoritism and taking it overboard.
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