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writes:I have this friend who is 15, he will be 16 in a few months but recently, after not noticing him for so long i have started to see him in a different way. I really do believe i have such strong feelings for him. Like i could just talk to him all day and love when i get his messages. The fact is i'm 19.. is four years too big off an age gap? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (5 January 2008):
It is only too much of an age gap if you choose to believe that it is.
The age gap at your age may feel comparitively large but that is only because you are both younger and four years is a higher proportion of your age (20-25%) than it will be in say ten years time (10-15%).
If it feels right for both of you than it is right - irrespective of age gap, sexuality, race, handicap or anything else out there that society may think of as a barrier or a taboo.
If others think there is too much of an age gap let them think it because if they have enough time to waste thinking of subjective rubbish like this, it just goes to prove that they obviously have a boring existance and are probably envious of the something potentially special that you two could both very easily have.
Just go for it and have fun and I hope it works for you.
Cheers
Trev
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reader, LouLee +, writes (5 January 2008):
 I hate questions like this, i have mixed views about it, 4 years is too much of an age gap but if he likes you the way you like him then i dont see any reason not to take things further, he's 15, ok he's still at school but he's not stupid, he knows what he's doing. Hope this helps? x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 If you can get along well with each other,age does not matter. What matters is you can communicate well with each other.Some people may develop or grow faster than their age.They matured faster than others of their age.
It is the maturity and not age that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): When i saw your question, it baffles me a lot, in the sense that, the first question that you suppose to ask yourself is that is it LOVE OR LUST you are feeling for the lad? And the second question is to be answer if your answer to the first question is LOVE, Did you think this lad can return your love back to you, did you even think he understands what is meant by love? If your answer is Yes to this..... then i will say AGE IS JUST A COUNT OF YEARS, what matter most is what you feel for each other, and the most important MATURITY. Clement O.
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