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writes: Should i be mad if on New Years Eve, my b/f receievs a text from an ex OR excuses himself a few minutes after midnight to avoid me seeing a text from a girl and to avoid me getting mad about it? I am feeling anxious about it coming up.Last year on NYE he received a text from a "guy"..i thought it was weird so i copied down the number and it was a girl he used to go out with. He hid it b/c i dont think he wanted me to get mad..although last year i was having a hard time and debating did this mean he was cheating? I never told him but i think he knew i found out.Now that it has been almost two years together, is it ok for him to receive a text from her? Or this shouldnt be happening and i should get angry if it does???
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reader, stina  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Hey Anon,
I can understand how it would be annoying if your guy got a text from an ex, but I don't think it's anything to worry about - especially since you two have been together for so long. Plus since he's going to be with you, maybe he could shut his phone off for the evening (I always find it rude when I'm out with someone and then they get on the phone while I just sit there waiting for them.)
Take care and have fun!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Maybe you shouldnt' be going through his phone and copying out his numbers? That sounds pretty over the top, to me.
If I was with someone as paranoid as you seem to be I doubt I'd tell you either if I innocently text a female friend or ex over NYE, it would be more hassle than it's worth.
Work on your trust issues and stop worrying about this, I always send my ex of four years a text or have a quick hello over the phone. Then again I text or call a few people I don't speak to that often any more so there's nothing suspicious about it at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Yeah, don't fret. Even if he does get a text from her it doesn't matter. Just wishing each other a happy new year. I'm taken and still mates with my ex and I'll be texting him on xmas and new years eve. There's nothing wrong with it, just being friendly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): You have to ask yourself this question who is he willing to see in the new year with.It will be you that should say a lot.And as for the text it isnt as if he texted her first he's getting them from her so you cant really be harsh on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): I agree with willywombat, don't fret over something that hasn't happened. We can't stop people texting our partners but if it is an ex and it goes on for some time then talk to him. Tell him you are not chuffed about the texts. Tell him exactly how it feel. Stop worrying and deal with it - if it happens.
Take care and have a brill Christmas and Healthy New Year
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reader, nobody +, writes (20 December 2006):
I wouldnt worry about it, I send a block text to everyone in my phone saying happy new year. Mates, exes, colleagues, the lot.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 You are worrying about something that HASN'T happened yet. Ask this question when of IF it happens please. Stop wasting energy on something that might never happen.
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reader, helphelp77 +, writes (20 December 2006):
i know this might not be what you want to hear, and you sound like a really nice person. but i think your being abit jealous. maybe the reason he told you it was a guy was because he knew you would respond like this?
it sounds like you definitely have issues trusting him if you are taking down the number. If its just a text with nothing suggestive saying happy new years that is more than fair enough. its not like they are constantly texting each other around the clock.
besides, this is a whole year on. if the reason his ex text her was because she was habouring any feelings, a year later they are more than likely to of gone. so if she does text him im sure its in a purely platonic way.
you really need to learn to trust him. i hope you can and have a great new years.
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