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writes:I'm so annoyed. My mum phoned me tonight at half 9pm. I'm 14 and she wouldn't let me stay out any later. She wouldn't let me sleep at my friends house. She has annoyed me so much I'm going to ignore her until she lets me stay out later. All my other friends get to stay out later its not right. Shes either being too overprotective or damm right annoying! Ahh!! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moi,x +, writes (27 May 2010):
im annoyed too. But I think you have to understand that parents are looking put for you. Your 14, accept it hun, chill and tell your mum how you feel about her rules. Dont go into a teenage brat attack if she refuses to change rules. But your friends parents are differnt. Do be jealous. Be grateful, grateful that you have such a fab mum that cares for you okay babe? Good. Hope my tips worked fabiee :) x
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reader, MissKin +, writes (14 January 2008):
 I think by behaving in such a way you're showing you're not mature enough to be allowed out any later than that. Regardless of your mother's reasons for her restrictions you should respect her wishes. Ignoring her won't make things any better, they will make her trust you less and make things worse.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (14 January 2008):
By not talking to her and ignoring her you are just showing her immaturity and therefore adding more weight to her side of the arguement. Her arguement is no doubt by what you say that you are too young to be out at this time of night irrespective of what your friends do.
You need to convince her that you are adult enough and responsible enough to be trusted out at a later time.
Also she is probably concerned that you get to bed not too late on a week day so you are fresh and alert in the mornings at school.
It is very rare that any parent would demand that you get back earlier for any selfish reasons. She has your interests at heart here so you need to talk to her woman to woman. I know from years of talking to teenagers and parents of teenagers that parents become much more agreeable to teenagers requests when they become mature requests and not childish demands.
Parents do not want their children to make the same mistakes that they have made and therefore sometimes become a little over protective trying to prevent their children from following their own directions. At the same time children and young adults have to be free to make some of their own mistakes in order to learn from them.
Parents are not ogres in general and usually want the very best for their offspring. The chances are that your mother is no differant from this and genuinely has your best interests at heart. Let her see how mature you are and in turn add more weight to your side of your arguement.
Cheers
Trev
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (14 January 2008):
 i dont think shes being overprotective to be honest hun. I know you dont want to hear it but shes just setting bounderies its what parents do for their children. Go home, be good, and ask polietly if maybe you can stay next friday or saturday telling her it isn't a school night and tell her you'll promise to ge good and go home at a set time
hope this helps x
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