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writes: Should I break up with my boyfriend? He doesn't call me or talk to me at all. I usually have to push him to do stuff, like asking me to a dance.He's a great guy and I don't want to regret anything. I really do like him but our relationship is getting boring! Reply to this Question
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reader, sweet&unsimple +, writes (3 January 2006):
hunny i know how you feel, im in the exact same position, seriously considering to break up with my boyfriend because of it. However, it's a lot easier said then done.
If you really want it to work with him and if he says he also wants it to work and he doesn't make an effort then maybe you should take the initiative and try and come up with a few ideas for you 2 to spend more time together, different places to go etc... and you never know he could come out of his shell. And if not then it's best to just move on and find someone who will better suit your personality. Then at least you could say that you tried and didn't just give up on it.
wishin you the best of luck hun! just go with it and do whatever you feel is right at the time.
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (1 January 2006):
 If your boyfriend really cares about you, then he should want to spend time with you. He should look forward to seeing you and hearing your voice on the phone. Right now, it sounds like he's not making you much of a priority. That sucks, and you deserve better! It can't be much of a relationship if he doesn't talk to you at all, as you say. In a healthy, normal relationship, the lines of communication are always open and flowing.
You won't regret it if you break up with him--trust me! There are a lot of guys out there who place more importance on their relationships and who would gladly take the time to call their girlfriends or arrange a date. You won't be bored if you explore your options and see that there are other guys out there who will put a lot more effort into a relationship with you.
Your relationships should not be a bore. I think that it's time to move on and find someone who will at least call you once in a while! The guy you are currently with is beyond passive. He sounds lazy and disinterested, in my opinion.
Good luck!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (1 January 2006):
 It's probably time to tell the "great guy" that you really want more out of a relationship than you're getting, that you're tired of always having to try to motivate him and that it makes you feel like a nag. Let him know that you'd like your boyfriend to be as active a partner in the relationship as you are. Tell him that you've begun to wonder if you might both be happier to end this relationship.
Then, take a mental step back and see what he says. Maybe, on the one hand, he knows it's time to break up and date other people (or date no one at all for a while). He might say as much, and then you end it without hard feelings.
Or maybe, on the other hand, you'll remind him that he hasn't been pulling his weight for a while, and he'll want to get his act together. He might tell you that he's sorry and wants to fix what's wrong. That's also a good outcome.
If you don't want to hurt his feelings - as I'm sure you don't - just don't be mean or vindictive about what you say. Make it more like a serious discussion that requires his input. As long as you're respectful in what you say, you leave the door open to reuniting as a couple later on, if that's what you both want.
Good luck, dearie.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (31 December 2005):
 Why stay with someone who makes little effort and is boring you? There are many other guys out there who will call you and make the effort, if that is what you are looking for.
Usually, the answer is the in the question. You asked, "should I break up with my boyfriend?" It sounds like you already know you want to, so I say yes. The only thing you will regret is not having done it sooner.
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