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writes:I'm almost 21 years old and have not had sex yet. my longest relationship was about 3 months back in high school when i was 16. i really dont know what the hell i'm doing. i'm not gay lets get that out of the way. I just feel sometimes too nervous at times. i do smoke pot maybe that comes into play since i hear about pyschological affects. it may be all in my head but i just don't know! i do not tell every woman i meet that i'm a virgin, but only old friends and close ones. i really haven't had much of sexual encounters of any sort. maybe that's why i feel like this point of my life i'm inexperienced and maybe a failure? I'm a good looking guy as well, but i just don't know what to do?! i tend to be indecisive and i just feel like my head is messing around and causing the other head to not work? say anything back 'im a great listener. i would greatly appreciate it, and getting me out of this hole. if there's any questions you all may have of curiousty please do ask so. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhormone levels... i will get checked out. i feel like maybe my nervous system is messed up or something. so many things can come into play. and yes i masterbate and i get sex drives. like i said im un experienced and need to get through this. just listening to your answers give me a bit more confidence about this situation
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reader, logicdebates +, writes (24 June 2008):
"You could also get a checkup of hormone levels. My boyfriend used to have low libido before I met him and it was due to a benignant brain tumor. He was treated... and it worked... too much sometimes lol."
I agree with that answer and it applies to me. I am overdue to check my own testosterone. I am a 26 year old virgin(but am proud and want to stay that way as I am also antisexual)
But there probably is nothing wrong with us. Not all of us make life's mission to "get laid" theres so much more to life. With all the drama and risks of sex, abstinence rocks!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Not having sex is definitely not a sign of being a looser, at least in my book however! Now, do you feel any type of sexual drive, ever? Do you masturbate? Have you noticed any difference in the last years in relation to your marijuana use?
These sites might be of interest concerning the use of marijuana:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/6316036?dopt=Abstract
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=9D00E1D9163BF936A15754C0A967948260
You could also get a checkup of hormone levels. My boyfriend used to have low libido before I met him and it was due to a benignant brain tumor. He was treated... and it worked... too much sometimes lol.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): maybe its because you have not found love yet. sex should be a special moment. not just a fling of a thing which so many guys do. when you share a real intimate relationship, the whole sex thing just comes naturally into play. there is no shame in waiting till you feel in your heart that it is right. actually, i respect you as a man more because of it. trust me, when it is the right moment with the right woman, the head will work ;)
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