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writes:So I posted before about my boyfriend being distant, not sharing his feelings, etc etc. Turns out he was really busy and stressed out this week, and he hasn't called me because he needed to clear his head, and he didn't want to talk to me because apparently I don't help the situation. I don't ridicule him or anything, I support him all the time, I've put in so much energy into our relationship and given him everything he needs, so I don't understand what that means. He said he wanted some space so I said have at it, that seems fair. But is it normal in a serious relationship to go a week or two without communication? We broke up before,and he acted the same way; I'm afraid something bad may happen again and I'm afraid to call him because it may push him away further. Is my insecurity justified, or am I being paranoid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): i have a similar issue, and i'm beginning to think, life is short, go for it and call him:) if he is distant or uninterested, will it kill you, or me???
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 I am not very sure about the manic depression but I found a link which might interest you
http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/manic-depression-symptoms-faq.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Laura. I know he loves me, or so he says haha jk, I just worry about him because he bottles everything up and either explodes or goes into these deep depressed moods. Is that manic depression?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 April 2010):
Men have a tendency to keep their feelings to themselves because they don't want to add anymore burdens to their g/f's.
If is not a big matter , they can handle it themselves.They do not like to share their problems with their g/f's.
Always calling him for everything or wanting to know if he loves you and feeling insecure about his love.That is clingy behaviours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your thoughts. He has texted me a few times to say "hope you have a good day" or "goodnight", but nothing too serious. And I've said before that he'll beg me to tell him what is wrong with me when I seem down, but when I ask him he just says it's nothing. He's never been too open about his feelings. I thought about surprising him with dinner to make him feel better, but true I don't want to seem clingy, what should I do? What are clingy behaviors?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 April 2010):
I think it's time you sat down and addressed this. I'm always sceptical when I read about people who have broken up before, because it nearly always means someone is not committed enough. In this case it's your boyfriend. I'm afraid if you stay in a relationship, what he is doing now will be normal. Every time there is a problem, he will walk away and hide. Then he will come back and the problem won't be solved, it will just be deferred for a time until another one comes along. I think you need to move on now, before this gets worse.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 April 2010):
That is a red flag when one distance oneself from the other. No matter how busy you are, I am sure calling you would not take much of his time. It is whether he wants to call or not.It is about where is his priorities .
Do not call him because you would appear to be needy or clingy.
Live your life and be happy in what you are doing.
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reader, darthangel165 +, writes (11 April 2010):
 u have a right to be insecure. i think u should plainly ask him whats going on. and see what happens from there. but ask him in person. so he has to answer.
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