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writes:My name's Steve, and I'm 35. *all names changed*I've been working with a guy named Ryan who's 25 for the last 12 months. When we first started working together, he invited me over to his house to hang out with his friends and have a few drinks. I met his friend Nate (22), and his girlfriend of three years, Donna (21).I was instantly attracted to Donna. I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't help the way I felt. Over the first 6 months of hanging out with them, I fell strongly for her. I thought she didn't return my interest until we had a drunked encounter. For the last 6 months we've been sleeping together, but it's more than that. It's like we're really close friends, with a physical connection.I provide for her, emotionally, what Nate doesn't. He's immature, he never tells her she's beautiful, and he doesn't seem to appreciate her. They seem to be very in love apart from this, but you can tell she wants (and needs more). When he gets really drunk (about once every 3-4 months), he verbally abuses her. She says that he just gets carried away when he's drunk, and he's always sorry afterwards (and that he'd never hit her) .. but still.I give her the things, physically, that he won't give her, either. But I want more, I'm in love with her. I know she feels something for me, she's told me. I know I can provide a good life for her, but she's been with Nate for three years. I know that there are many good points about their relationship, but I can give her that, and more.I'm afraid that if I tell her I want more than what we have, she'll stop seeing me. How can I show her that she can have a better life with me? I'm not perfect, I'm overweight, I'm older than her, I have schizophrenia, but I can make her happy ... and she'd make me happy. I'd lose Nate's friendship, and I wouldn't be able to hang with Ryan on the weekends as much (because Nate would be there), but I don't really care, all I care about is her.
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 You sound jealous of nate, that's not good, it doesn't make you look good.Hows her relationship with him? Is it deteriorating?If not... after 6 months... then this girl is really not a saint...If she loved you she'd have drifted apart from her bf now.Maybe you can snatch her, but you're walking a thin line, you have to be aware that any mistake you make and she can dump you in a second and go back to her nate.If she tells you that she misses you.. or stuff like that, then she might have feelings for you.Oh and one more thing, act like a man. (i'm overweight, i have schizophrenia....) this is not the attitude that will make her leave her 3 year bf for you. Remember how you were at the beginning of the relationship? Bad guy? Stay like that.... unless Nate is the bad guy and you are the sensitive guy?In any case this woman is living paradise now... one bad guy to abuse her, one sensitive guy that she can abuse... enough to cater to all her needs :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
Bit of a difficult one here, Your mate who invited you into his home to be his friend and his g/f has run of to have sex with you. She should have been honest with him in the first place love, This could get nasty and she can probably see that. If she wanted to finish her relationship I would have thought she would have said something by now, You are inlove with this girl sweetheart she goes of back to her b/f and tell me they dont have sex anymore. You work with this friend and he trusts you...
All that aside if you are willing to loose all that then you have to talk to her about your feelings, As she may not no how you feel and take that chance at least you will no where you stand hunny and her fella may be not right for her in your eyes but he must be doing something right or she would have left him, Having the opportunity to be with someone who cares about her as you do, Its a sticky situation to be in so I would talk with her about where she wants it to go from here love and let her make her decition from there best of luck to you WITH LOTS OF LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 It is not who you think you are but what she thinks you are that counts. You do not have to tell her , if she loves you she will want more of your emotional side.This is her love progression.
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