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writes:Hey =)I'm 13 years old, and alot of people call me weird,stupid, dumb even my friends haha. I am always laughing and happy, although I can be serious when I need to be. I laugh at alot of things that people don't and I am always friendly towards people and apparently I am naturally funny. As for the 'dumb' bit, I can be quite slow, although I think 'uninformed' is a better term :P I am good at all school subjects, I get good grades, and I have an IQ of 129. but people always seem to look at my negative traits rather than myt positive ones. Because of this I always think that I won't get a boyfriend, because I am so friendly, I just start thinking that they will only see my as a friend. I am afraid the guy I like will think I am weird, he already called me bonkers, although we are close friends. Is there anything I go do to 'contain' my so called weirdness? I really like this guy and I don't want him to laugh and think of me as just a friend. Also do you have any confidence tips? I kind of lack in the confidence zone haha. Greatly appreciated! Thanks! =)
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reader, Dylan McK +, writes (5 June 2009):
 dont worry, you sound exactly like the person i fancy. Your names not lois by any chance?!
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reader, PsychoticNotCrazy  +, writes (5 June 2009):
Hey there!First of all, in wanting to 'contain' your weirdness you diminish your character, the person you truly are in favor of the person people would rather you become.You have an IQ of 129! Now i dont know about you but that hardly spells DUMB to me. So we know then that they dont call you dumb for a lack of intelligence. The most likely reason they call you dumb and other names could be they are insecure about themselves and need to gain in their own confidence by making someone else feel worse than them - in this case, you.So my advice is:1) Never change who you are, your dreams and anything about yourself for the acceptance of others. Remember you arent the first and you wont be the last (I know) so you arent alone. Its like someone i know would say "show me 1 superstar, and i will show 10 haters and 100 fans." 2)In being weird, you're special. So if this boy you fancy doesnt have the sense to compliment you and would much rather bring you down then, he isnt worth it.3) Confidence. When i was in high school until November last year i had to speak up alot in front of the whole school. Vice Head Boy so it came with the territory. And no matter how often i went up id always get scared before i started to speak. But i found out that when i took the plunge and started to speak i would settle into what i was doing and soon had everything under control. What im getting at is, most times getting the nerve to do something is the most difficult thing and not that you're unable. Iv found that just doing it before i think about who is watching or what they'll think, forced me to get going in order to get over and done with it.Also believe in yourself. It starts inside and works its way out.4) Above all, give everything time. At 13, i think your peers arent able to see your true potential. Time.Hope this helps... =)
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reader, jalmetha  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 We all can be a big ole bucket of crazy at times. You just have to know when to tone it down. I have learned that when I was feeling rather funny, that was when I was at my goofyiest. When you start to feel that way, just take a step back and slow down a bit. As for always being the friend, you are only 13 my dear. Give it time. As time passes, you will get to know yourself better and your confidence will grow; when it does, the boys will come. You will also find that as the boys grow up they will not think of you as weird, but as witty. A Guy loves to be with someone who makes them feel at ease and laughing makes them more comfortable. You'll be fine. Give it time, tone it down a bit and wait for the men to come!
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reader, April-xo +, writes (5 June 2009):
I think if you’re a friendly person people are more likely to be attracted to you, they will want to engage with you see what your about get to know you, same with boys act normal with them just don’t laugh at totally ridiculous things, there is this boy in my school when someone said something like jelly cheese he laughed and thts pathetic as long as you don’t do tht you will be fine your just worrying too much x good luck show him how you feel, even better tell him when your more confident to get to know what he likes and stuff be like so what do you like (interests favourite food favourite drink) then ask something like what do you look for in a girl ? and stuff see what he thinks and says then think would he like me back if you think maybe then go for it xHe wont know you like him until you say, and he might be calling you bonkers in a way of saying your really sweet! x best of luck x
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