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writes:I'm so scared, as my partner and parents have taken the vaccine. I wondered if anyone has had any luck convincing loved ones not to get boosters? If so, I would love to know how you were able to do that? I'm so scared of losing everyone I love. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2022): Sure, I'll share what happened. I posted about my dads death. When he was being put on the ventilator, there was a scramble of people going in and out of his negative pressure room (people suiting up in extra ppe) in ICU. One of the attending medical staff, maybe a nurse, maybe a dr, I didnt know at the time, came up to my brother and I (who both had to suit up to stand there) asked us if we had been vaccinated. Both of us said yes, and she seemed to relax. She said then she wasn't worried about us. People were going in and out of dads room a lot, and I guess there was still a chance to get covid by being there. Dad had tested positive about a week earlier. So for two more weeks he was on the vent, in the sealed room. Each day we went by to talk directly to his drs (there were three or more specialists) and the nurse staff. The ICU was full it seemed, and waiting for nurses and drs to call back was too inconsistent, so we went to talk to them directly. The nursing staff rotated, the drs made their rounds and we tried to catch them whenever possible. It was not a whisper kind of conversation any of the times this was discussed. One nurse said she worked in ICU since the beginning of the pandemic and said since the vaccine came out, all the patients who had it were much better off than those who didnt, by far. Dad received all treatments possible. We tried to get him transferred for ECMO, but he was considered too old, being past 65. Visiting each day, we got on more familiar and personal terms with his care givers so they were informing us of different scenarios and peoples previous cases and outcomes. For example, we were told of another person who had covid with complications (and before the vaccine, so no vaccine) the same vent numbers as dad, but had recovered, and now after 8 months could take his oxygen machine outside and get to his garden. We asked drs and they confirmed the same thing, without pointing to specific people or breaking any HIPPA laws, that pretty much all the severe covid cases they had seen were unvaccinated people. It didnt kill all of them, and others who had the vaccine, but were in poor health, did worse or even died, like my grandmother. It isnt a silver bullet. The message from these people who treated covid patients every day was clear.. the vaccine makes a big difference.I wish there was a quick and easy way to convince people of the pain it is to watch someone die through glass over weeks without them going through it. You cant hug them. You cant comfort them. You cant tell them goodbye. You can only watch them suffer. Whatever fears you have over the vaccine and its conspiracy theories or new science.. doesnt matter what your fears and hesitations are.. those things are all a much better fate than the one we endured and still live with. My dad was a great man, who did so much for others and his community. There is a chance that he could still be here with us had he chosen differently. We didn't push it. We didn't know how bad and how fast it could damage you. My brothers family all got it and most of them it was little more than a cold. Maybe that put dad into a false sense of security that he could have the same outcome. Did he die OF covid? well covid damaged his lungs so badly that he had no more lung capacity after just a few days. The ICU nurse said that before covid, they never had to turn the vent past 7 or 8. Dads was on 15 at times. He was also developing other problems just because of being on the vent. Was covid still active in his body when he died? doubtful. it was 3 weeks or more after he must have gotten it and after all those meds it wasnt active. He was living a normal and active life and was just in florida on vacation when he got it. Im sure you can find plenty of people who have different viewpoints, and I stand to gain nothing from sharing my story other than the hope that it helps save someone out there and those rhat love them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2022): I'm vaccinated. Two shots, and a booster. My entire family is vaccinated, have booster shots. One hold-out, my nephew, finally got his first and second shots of vaccine.
If this was more of a health-issue than a political one; I think a lot more people would have been vaccinated. People used to get vaccinated, and that was that. Now we have the internet; and vile politicians, who use propaganda and fear tactics to manipulate and incite violent people.
I have been medically trained. I served in the military where you got vaccinations for things you've never heard of. I didn't have time to mull over whether I wanted it or not; but I had to have my inoculations records updated, or else!
I'd rather not test God, or play Russian roulette with covid; but to each his or her own.
If you get all your medical information from people who could possibly be from hostile foreign nations trolling the internet spreading disinformation; you will probably never get another vaccination for anything. In fact, people have reactions to taking aspirin and various other over-the-counter drugs. They still sell, and people still take them. Many supplements and unapproved meds go on the market, never even checked for their side-effects, and they make billions of dollars! People purchase their prescription medications over the internet from foreign countries, and questionable online pharmacies; and take recreational drugs purchased off the street, or handed to them at a party. I just don't know why this fear of covid vaccine is so widespread? In spite of all this! You hear the news casts about people who've overdosed on fentanyl and other narcotics; but it doesn't stop people from abusing drugs, or buying from street dealers.
I didn't have any reaction except a sore spot where I got the shot for a couple of days. All my vaccinated friends and family are still fine.
If you haven't caught it so far, thank God! I think a shot is a lot less risky than the disease; but suit yourself. You don't force Jesus on anybody, you encourage them. I guess the same goes for the covid vaccine.
One thing I will not do, is spread fear that could cost someone their life. I keep my fears between me and Jesus. Mankind is losing all compassion, and becoming hateful and divisive. Many people don't mind spreading lies and fear; all based on rumors and conspiracy theories. That's exactly why I pray everyday, day and night. I refuse to be caught-up in fear and hatred. God gives us a choice. I have no right to condemn anyone for the choices they make. I know people who have died of covid, the Lord has been merciful and has spared my family and me.
My condolences to those who read this; who have lost family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers to the pandemic. May God bring you peace and comfort.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 February 2022):
 I think you are going to have to trust that people will do what is best FOR them. That includes vaccines or boosters.
My 3 kids (17 and up) have all chosen to get the vaccine. None have gotten the boosters. My husband and I have not gotten the vaccine. I'm ok with ANYONE choosing to have the vaccine and anyone CHOOSING to not have it.
I had Covid in 2020 (it sucked and I lost my sense of smell and taste - taste came back in 2021, sense of smell is still a hit or miss, unfortunately. I haven't had it since. (that I know of).
Trust your loved one to make the right choices for THEMSELVES.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (19 February 2022):
 To the anonymous male reader whose father died (doesn't state whether it was FROM Covid or WITH Covid): while I am very sorry for your loss, I would like to know how you were privy to confidential medical information about all the other patients on the hospital ward? How many patients are was talking about? Did you have access to their medical records to make such statements?
I read and hear time and time again that the majority of patients who recently died FROM Covid were actually vaccinated - and this information is coming from doctors and other medical staff who feel they have to speak out. That's not to mention the dreadful side effects many people have suffered as a result of taking this experimental treatment.
Please share your sources of information because I am genuinely intrigued.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (18 February 2022):
All you can do is plant seeds and hope something grows. They have a right to make decisions about their own bodies, regardless of whether you agree or not, just as you have a right to decline this experimental treatment. Yes, it is still experimental, as you probably know, and is not a vaccine because it cannot stop you getting the virus or spreading it but, perhaps, can help you fight it IF you catch it.
There is no proof yet of what the long term affects of these jabs will be. There are a lot of stories out there about the POSSIBLE effects but they are all theories at present. We have to hope most of them are wrong.
Personally, if someone asks me about having the jabs, I respond with "I have a 99+% chance of surviving this virus IF I get it, so why would I take a treatment in advance, which does not stop me contracting it and which has death as one of the possible side effects?" It is MY choice not to take it, just as it is THEIR choice to take it. We have to agree to disagree.
Stay strong. These are very difficult times. I totally sympathize but there is nothing you can really do to stop people taking this treatment if they so wish. That is what medical freedom is all about; it works both ways. Try not to worry too much as that, in itself, can affect your immune system.
Sending hugs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2022): Thank you for taking the time to write back, Kenny.
I've just heard of some horrible reactions people have had, hence why I'm afraid of the vaccines and boosters. Prior to that, of course I would've encouraged them to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2022): I'm curious to know why you think the covid vaccine is dangerous? In fact from what I've seen it's incredibly safe and saved thousands if not millions of lives. I have a phobia of needles so have every reason to be afraid of a vaccine but I still went and did it. I researched it thoroughly online first and spoke with a doctor and that only reassured me it was the right thing to do.
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reader, kenny +, writes (18 February 2022):
 Personally i would never advise loved ones not to get boosters, which as far as i know they already have had a while back, as have I.
My parents are older now, and i feel better knowing the fact that that are boosted, as well as flu jabs. So in my opinion they are more protected than if they had nothing at all, which makes me feel better.
Of course we all worry about losing people we love. I can't work out why you would want to convince loved ones not to get boosters, this does not make sense. Surely they are safer with the booster than without it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2022): I can offer this - my dad didn't get the vaccine and died. I know he wished he did (as many others have) finally before going on the ventilator and never coming off. In his ICU floor, every single critical patient had no vaccine. Every single one. Some unvaccinated people have less problems, some recover, some have a never ending cough- but some die like him and my grandmother. The vaccine is the best chance to avoid death, but doesn't guarantee anything. He spent his last weeks in a sealed glass room alone, where none of us could speak to him or hold him, only watch him die. Please consider what I have said, and don't add to the needless loss of this global disaster - for your own sake and that of those on the other side of the glass left behind.
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reader, QueenCupcake +, writes (18 February 2022):
 Sorry, but you can’t dictate whether or not people get vaccinated, no matter how you feel or how much you love them. It’s their own body, and their own choice. Just like it is yours not to get it.
If it is at all reassuring, the Covid vaccine is mostly like all the other vaccines in terms of the fact that it’s unlikely to be too dangerous.
Many people have had it and they are fine. Don’t let fake news and conspiracy theories scare you.
There’s no point in worrying, as there’s not really anything you can do
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