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writes:I know I'm very young, but please understand that these days everything varies from person to person, for example I know people barely a year older than me that have actually been together with someone for a few years, others that just sleep around without any respect, and others that have never even kissed and don't plan to until they get married. So, to my situation. Recently, about a month and a half ago, I got together with this wonderful guy. He's the funniest and most entertaining person I can think of, and he makes me feel really happy, so when he asked me to get together with him, I quickly answered yes. (I just want to add here, that before him, I hadn't had any serious relationships, or someone that really cared about me. I've started to think I got together with him just to feel loved and have someone that admired me that was mine, if you know what I mean.) It's a very open and caring relationship, but still there are times when I wish I wasn't with him. When I want to do what I want and not feel tied down, or when he just becomes a bit too much for me, and he's just so /immature/, though I understand he's hit puberty blah blah blah and all, it's too much. And honestly, he's not all that good looking either.And then, there's guy number two. Twenty-two year old guitarist of a local band, generally good looking and athletic, and interested in /ME/ of all people. I've been thinking that maybe it's for sex (even if I'm just a child, it's not uncommon for girls my age to lose their virginity to boys a LOT older) or something, but he seems pretty lonely and mysterious of himself, even if he gets flirty a lot with me and even implies stuff such as me telling him that I have tendency to warm up to people easily and maybe cling or initiate body contact as if it's nothing(as a warning, kind of), and his reply was that that's fine and it's definitely not something he'd object to, but I should watch it so I don't give him the wrong idea and he takes it to the next level with ~forbidden stuff~.I already know in my heart that I'm a bit of a polygamy supporting person, and that if my boyfriend kissed someone else, I wouldn't mind, and that I myself am fully capable of cheating and messing around with hearts.Right now, I'm so confused. Part of me loves my stable boyfriend that cares so much about me, un-groomed as he may be, while this new guy is older, new and exciting, and I'm far too nice of a person to break this already broken person and end it by simply calling or texting saying "I'm in a relationship."Help me cupid!
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 You're correct in that things vary from person to person. It is also true that things are different at present than they were back in the day. But there ARE some things that remain static and true no matter how much time passes, one of those truths is: A PREDATOR IS A PREDATOR. Guy #2, age 22 is way outta your league, little sister. This is what makes him seem so magnetic to you. You sound very thoughtful and pretty smart for your age bracket. What you've stated here is really your own good advice. I'd wonder how you know that you're a "Polygamy-supporting" person. This too, is far out of your league. You need at least another five good years behind your belt before you even dream of going there. Straight up: leave guy#2 alone, if he's "broken" there's nothing you can do for him nor should you try. At 22, he he's old enough to fix himself which includes not predating upon young girls. You have enough on your plate in just preventing yourself from becoming "broken" Don't sell yourself short at such an tender age. By the time you're his age, you'll be wondering why on earth you even bothered yourself with him. Trust me. Be good to yourself and guy #1. Plus: keep in mind that virginity is not a stone around your neck that you must be rid of as soon as some 22 yro predator-loser shows interest. Do the right thing for yourself now and you'll never regret it! Respect you and require the same of others!
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reader, goowes +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Men don't actually mature (be truly faithful) until about 30 years old so niether guy is mature. You are making some serios decisions for a 15 year old. The second guy is legally a criminal if you have sex with him. You make sure that you You should focus your attention on how to give yourself that care to avoid dependance on others, that is a lot of power to give away and men hate needy. They love strong and know self, not take crap. Women get emotionally attatched after they have sex, men can do it and go on their way like it was a cup of coffee. The second guy only wants in your sacred center, no way to that unless they are a real hero and then its because you have chosen them after they have proven their worth. Sex is not regular day relation stuff kids and people are not being appropriate these days. Forget what others are doing. You make that life part alone and for yourself, its your private business and not to be compared ever. Not even with tv or magazines. I am a dental hygienist and learned also that kids by the age of 25 1 in 54 will get an STD. you can get it from bloody gums. So yuck, be careful what you touch lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): You said that this is your first serious relationship, it's normal to panic and start looking around elsewhere, but mate to be honest, I'm sure that this is a lie :'I already know in my heart that I'm a bit of a polygamy supporting person, and that if my boyfriend kissed someone else, I wouldn't mind, and that I myself am fully capable of cheating and messing around with hearts.'This has never happened to you , and if it did, I'm sure you wouldn't think this sway anymore, noone likes to be cheated/ be the cheat. I think that you should stay away from this older guy, I mean you're already thinking of sex with him, and you're so innocent, it is totally not the right time
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