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writes:I'm a 16yo boy who is bisexual and seriously in love with a friend. The thing is i dont know what to do, i want to act on my emotions but am afraid that if i do i will lose him completely.We're so alike which leads me to think he might not be straight but i also kinda think it might be because im love blind and have made myself think it.im in my final year at school and we might not go to the same college but if i act now things could affect my exams. HELP ME please!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (29 November 2010):
If you have the type of friendship as best friends do you should be able to talk about anything and know whether their reaction is a real one or not.
Blokes talk about women and sex a lot and it could be a way in.
Perhaps the conversation could be led on to talk of bi-sexuality somehow and you could perhaps say along the lines of you cannot understand how people can like both sexes.
See where it takes you. It could follow it up with something like: do you think you could be bi?
I think it's more of a subtle way of finding out rather than asking outright and properly risk falling out straight off if he freaks out.
As I said, if you're is best friend you will know his reactions and you will get a better idea.
As AvgGuy1 asks, how do you two act around each other?
He mentions innocent sleeping together, hugs, stares etc. Have you been in a position where you have got changed in front of each other - in changing rooms, in your room or been somewhere hot and sunny so you are like in just shorts? Have you noticed any looks?
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (20 November 2010):
If he doesn't know that you are bisexual tell him and see how he reacts. If he is gay or bisexual he will probably tell you because he would need someone to confide in. He would feel safe telling you that. If he doesn't tell you that he is gay or bisexual then you have to let it go. I know it's not easy. Don't tell him how you feel about him unless he tells you that he is gay or bisexual. I am gay and I love someone that was a friend deeply. The reason that they aren't still a friend is because he won't come anywhere near me now that he knows how I feel about him. You don't want to risk that.
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reader, muffy +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Sugar,you should ask him if he's gay or bi first.If you act on it and come to find out he's not, it will make things awkward and he might get freaked out and leave.If he is gay or bi, then go ahead and act upon it.The worst that could happen is he says he doesn't feel for you like that.If he goes along with it,then tell him how you feel and hope for the best.I hope everything works out for you dear.If you need anything let me know.
Love and kisses,
Muffy33
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Well... only you really truly KNOW your friend so it's really hard for us to say... yes go ahead and come-out/tell him you love him.
How has he acted towards you in the past? Are you both, already, physically touchy (hugs, long stares, etc.) Have you ever 'innocently' slept in the same bed together? Has he ever made any statements about how he feels about bi/gay people? Does he go out of his way to be with/around you? Ask him things like how he feels about the two of you not being able to see each other once you graduate. Even his other friends might be indicators of his attitudes towards bi/gay people - do you have other friends around you who are bi/gay?
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