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writes:Hi, please help me! My family hit me and honestly i'm sick and tierd of it what am i mean to do? How can i stop this happening? My brother beats me up the most and my mum or dad or sisters don't say anything to him he always hits me hard i've got lots of bruses and i'm in pain i just got beaten up by my mum and brother please what can i do?Mod Note, Since this post, another one came in from this individual. She's been beat up again, and her mom threatened to do great bodily harm (even death) or throw her out of the house if she calls the police. Reply to this Question
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Hi Anon, did you speak to your form teacher about an appointment with the councillor today? Could you let us know how you are? At least let us know you didnt get into to trouble for writing to us. please xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Uncle Phil is spot on with his answer. Call Childline and call it now. This cannot keep on happening. If you feel brave and strong enough then go to the police, this is assault. Dont think that just because it is your family then it cannot be put a stop to, well it can. Your mum is someone who should be protecting you not beating you up. Noone on this planet should be laying a finger to you, least of all your own flesh and blood. Please promise me that you will put a stop to it today. Please let us know how you are, i am worried. Sending you loads of hugs.
take care
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reader, slickspurs +, writes (17 November 2007):
 If you ever need to talk or need help please feel free to message me on here anytime, and i'll try my best for you.Awww i really do hope you're well =(
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (17 November 2007):
Hi Anonymous. I have calmed down after my initial panic. I know you fear making phone calls to childline, and its likely the police will just take you home regardless f what yo tell them. However You can get help. We can help you i you contact us, if the situation is dire. Or when you go back into school on monday, You can speak to your form teacher, and ask her to hook you up with the school councilor asap, ask for an in school apointment so your mother doesnt know about it. They are compleately confidential, none of the teachers will know what you talk with them about and your friends dont need to know either.
The coucilor will listen to you and may suggest other ways to deal with the situation at home. and if you really cant cope anymore she will help you get out.
If your anything like me, you wont have a huge number of friends but maybe you have one or two close friends. Maybe one of them would be prepared to talk to their parents and offer you somewhere to stay.
Meanwhile, try to keep your head low, I found keeping quiet and hiding in my room helped keep my mums anger in check. Though it didnt do a lot with my brother, if he was bored he will still come lookig for me, so maybe just staying out of the house as long as possable, comming home on time for tea, then if you cannot go back out hide up in your room with a book or two.
Please get back to us when you can, we are all worried for you. Take care of yourself. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Call Childline - 0800 1111. They'll set the wheels in motion and get you out of this situation.
They're in the phone book in the business listings section. Remember the number . 0800 1111.
Phil
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reader, slickspurs +, writes (16 November 2007):
Wow omg, this is serious!First things first, you need to get help and fast, this looks like it could get worse. Go to the citizens advice beareau, go to the council, go to the police .... go anywhere you can go to talk about this problem. I would suggest for you to go to the police. Dont Worry about your mum making threats ... she will not carry them through if she is not stupid, however make sure you highlight her threats to the police and be adamant that you cannot go back there as you are in fear of your life. THIS HAS GOT TO STOP AND IT HAS TO BE NOW - SO GO TO THE POLICE!!!!Your one of millions who endure household violence in their homes and speaking from experience, although not to your level, i can understand where your coming from and just how scared at 13 you must be. But please don't be frightened. You have to be strong dear and get help, it's the only way you will get free from this hellhole you call a home let alone a family. If you go to the police they will help you in every aspect and even find you a home where you can stay until things are sorted. You may end up in a foster home with people who will love you more then anything ... so please go get help no before it is too late.I know you must be scared and you fear your mum, but if you stay at home you will get seriously hurt. So there is no point staying at home any longer, it is time for you to leave, so please leave and get help. Perhaps if your scared then you could go to an aunt or uncle or even your friends house for support. Tell your friends mum and dad everything that is happening and i am sure they will help in every way possible. They will let you stay at theres and go to the police station with you so there is no need to worry. - GET HELP AND DO IT NOWHope it goes well for you dear, good luck and god bless.
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (16 November 2007):
Contact one of us directly please! We can help you. I went through exactly the same thing as a kid and No-one helped me. Please please contact one of us directly now!
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (16 November 2007):
 You need to tell someone about this and fast.
The best people to contact about this are the NSPCC as you are still a child, their number is - 0808 800 5000.
Or you can visit www.adviceguide.org.uk which will be able to give you info on emergency options and longer term help for people affected by violence at home
Good luck with this, I really hope you find some end to this awful situation x
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reader, rcn  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 What needs to happen is getting you out of that environment. You must have access to a computer, or you wouldn't be able to ask for help here. I looked up a site for you in the UK called Contact Childline. http://www.childline.org.uk/Childabuse.asp
Contact them. Contact the police. Don't tell her you did, but when they are there, I really doubt anything will happen to you. They are there to protect you.
If you're afraid too. Reply or send a personal message with your information, and I'm sure one of us will notify the authorities for you and get you some immediate help.
Keep strong, and let's get you safe.
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