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*hexxlovesxxhim6
writes:So, I've always found older guys more interesting than the ones my own age. I'm 16, and I always seem to find myself looking and thinking about 20-40 year olds. I find myself being, well, more myself around older guys than the ones my age. I was adopted and I only have a mother, and no real father figure. I was wondering if that may have something to do with my preferences? Also, there's this guy. He's in his 30s. How can you tell that an older guy, in that age group likes you? You know, they have to be more subtle about it and everything, so I was just wondering.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (4 January 2009):
i would say it;s normal that a younger girl looks up to older guys. i think all young girls do that. but becareful, as there are alot of creeps and perverts around.
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (2 January 2009):
Well, let me start off by saying, it's perfectly normal to feel this way. In my opinion age is just a number, but to such an extreme there are certain altercations where something like that could and should not be okay.
When I was 16 years old I dated a man (a boy now that i look back at it) that was 21 years old, he was so much more appealing and attractive and mature to me, boy was I wrong.
Then when I was 17, I began seeing a 28 year old, and now that I look back at it, I have to always wonder and ask myself, "What kind of 28 year old would see something in a 17 year old girl?" He must be insecure and quite immature.
I thought I was so mature when I was 17 compared to the rest of the girls my age. I was just a girl, I still am a girl trying to figure out the world in front of me.
It's not a generalization one should make about age. There are boys out there that are closer to your age that could be far more compatible AND legal than dating a man close to twice your age.
I have dated a variety of ages and have come to realize there is nothing to do with age. Maybe right now mentally you feel you could better connect with an older man, but more than likely he is not worth it.
Believe it or not, my longest and most successful relationship thus far was with a man less than a year older than me. We dated for 2 years and he was the most mature of all the other men I had dated.
I just think its important in a relationship to look past the age and at the person for who they are, not what they are. When you are able to do that, you will be able to have a successful relationship with someone worth your while.
Currently, I am in a relationship with a man three years older than me, and things have been great. It's not the age I am worried about or the maturity, all that matters is that he makes me happy.
Also, remember that when you are under 18, its more than likely legal for an older man to date you, and if you do find someone much older than you and truly cared for you, he would respect you and wait until you were legal to have any type of relationship with you.
Good Luck though!
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reader, shexxlovesxxhim6 +, writes (2 January 2009):
shexxlovesxxhim6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlmao I'd like some realistic advice, please.
And he's married. I can't be positive if he likes me, he could just be a really friendly guy.
Would giving more details about him make answering this question easier? .-.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Check his records to see if he's on file as a pedophile. If he is, he's probably in to you:)
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