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writes:I am 24 years old and still a virgin. I have recently decided that i am ready to have sex with my long time boyfriend. We have tried once and I freaked out. I couldn't relax and kept moving my legs and hips! I am just so scared that it is going to hurt really bad, but I know he will be gentle. Please help! How can I relax?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): if you are really afraid that it will hurt so much try this.
Mabey once a week try masterbating a little so it will losen the skin inside. The thin layer of skin that he will break through is what causes the pain, if you losen it a little more everyday, it will not hurt.
Hope this helps, cya
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Well, at your age it might not hurt all that much depending on how wet you are before you attempt intercourse and your build.
Have you thought about being on top? It would allow you full control of the penetration so that you can back-off if it hurts to bad or need to take it slow.
Just make sure you are really physically ready. Don't skip on the foreplay.
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reader, ryandude18  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Why not just forget about the sex and enjoy the moments of being together. I know this sounds cheesy but you could go out to somewhere beautifull and just enjoy that place, i know that if you are not thinking to hard about it, then you are not worrying about it.
Beauty is everywhere.....
Or even better if you cant take your eyes off each other, why not just get lost in the moment and go mad.
sorry, bit of a bad answer
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reader, Livinglifedaybyday +, writes (27 June 2008):
Well be prepared that even if your boyfriend is gentle that it will hurt a bit. To relax I suggest to set the mood to be relaxing. Have a semi-dark room, scented candles, and have a drink or two of wine. Have your boyfriend give you a massage in this enviroment, LOTS of foreplay is key to make things a little easier. Also I would invest in a good lubricator available at any store almost even fun flavored ones ;). But becareful because some mess up condoms and make them ineffective. Just take everything nice and slow even if your boyfriend has to stop and allow you to adjust for a few minutes be4 things proceed. Just relax and have fun, I hope that everything goes well for you!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 June 2008):
 You are 24-years-old, you say, and if you have indeed decided to become sexually active, you should experience no problem at all. It will not "hurt really bad" as you suggest, providing your boyfriend is reasonably considerate and perhaps somewhat experienced.
It is usually helpful if the guy is knowing enough to be fairly easy for a girl's first time. A very easygoing attitude by the guy is especially comforting for a female. You should be able to relax, in large part, by simply knowing that the activity is perfectly natural, most pleasurable and that you are plenty of age. Be squeaky clean, look your best pretty, then enjoy with no worry ! Best wishes girl . . .
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