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writes:im soo angry right now!!!!!!!!!!!like...its soo silly, but i dont know why i feel like this...when i was little, i was a proper little tomboy...my long curly hair combined with torn up jeans, jeans which were torn up by playing 'knock door run' or jumping over high wallls and falling, and fighting with the lads.in high school i had 3 best mates which were girls, they let me down and i thought...forget girls, i wanna hang out with the lads! theyre more fun and take things to heart less. dont get me wrong im actually pretty girly now, i love shopping and wtching chick flicks...and im not a lesbian or a boy at heart lol..BUT..im someone who hates being emotional, i hate emotional convos, i hate speaking about my personal feelings, i hate people knowing about my health bla bla...tonight..my dad askd me if i'm gonna marry my boyfriend...it was like a brick had hit me....i went mad at my whole family, its so obvious I'm going to marry my boyf..why ask me?!?!?!! i understand why he asked me...but still...i dont want to talk about it...its like finding out i had to wear a bra for the rest of my life (which ive accepted and love! ) buttt still...lol...why am i like this...all of a sudden i wish i was someone else, i think guys have it so much easier because they're not expected to have these convos...and i envy that...anybody else feel like me..or am i just weird:| ?????????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): try an let people now how you feel by just telling them an not get angry. i think you should try an get in touch with your emotions a little bit more it seems tha you are afraid to say how you feel. people onlly ask cos they care. if they didnt care they wouldnt ask.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Hm. in one respect i understand. Because i hate being all emotional and honest and i don't want anything to be serious. i want everything to be light and fun. i dont mind other people being emotional. i never have, but as soon as i start feeling something less than happy i want to ignore the hell out of it.
It's okay to feel the way you do. But you need to control your anger a bit less. because you've always allowed yourself to hide these feelings and NOT talk about them, someone else mentioning them affects you in this way. I think it's a bit unhealthy to hate being at all emotional. you need to (and everyone, male or female) needs to learn to let slip a bit of emotion. how do people know how you're feeling otherwise? Perhaps it wasn't obvious to your father you were going to marry because you dont show your emotions a lot. and maybe you think people can tell how you feel when really they can't.
I do understand what you mean though. And there's nothing REALLY wrong with it but the same way people shud understand that ur not an 'emotionally outwards' person, u shud understand that this can make you hard to read to some people.
I hate it everytime i get sad. if i cry i beat myself up for days about it - and that really makes me feel worse so i dont know why i do it. and i hate being mushy and cute but i do it anyway because it comes natural to me.
Some guys are expected to have these conversations and because the male stereotype is that guys are a lot less emotional, guys actually find these conversations a lot harder. so if anything, guys are likely to be most understanding of your situation.
I do know where you're coming from. I think you just need to let yourself express your emotions every now and then in a way you're comfortable with. even if it's not public to anybody else. allow yourself to express them to yourself and it won't bother you so much having to have emotional conversations.
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