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writes:Hey there, I need help for a mind-torturing situation...I'm a straight guy who's in love with a man.I've known him for 10 years, we occasionally worked together, have friends in common, meet on a regular basis.Since the day we met I've felt a very strong physical attraction to him. I must say there's something quite feminine about him (very long hair, lean figure, pretty eyes). Maybe that's why he turns me on that much, I've long time stopped wondering, I don't care.With time we got close, and some sort of psychological fascination has been added to my desire. We're very good friends now. I've tried to forget about him - I come from a very religious family and work in a very "straight" area, but I became truly obsessed with him. I really love his personality and about everything about him. Unfortunately he's a very extrovert bisexual guy, with a crazy sex experience.The kind of guy who would "tease" just for fun...A heartbreaker. I don't know how I should let him know, nor IF I should. Do you think I stand a chance ? He's really popular with everyone. I'm quite confident myself, with WOMEN. Never touched a guy before. He sees me as a super-straight guy (which I am, in a way - I even said a few slight homophobic remarks before him!!). Will he feel disgusted ? Can he consider me as a possible lover even though I'm straight ? Will he get offended if I tell him what I like about his looks (the feminine feeling) ?.Also he's always claiming he's a "top". I don't intend to be a "bottom"! Would that be a real problem ? I'm clueless about gay guys, I don't know how to approach him. I feel like a teen. Reply to this Question
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 i don't think he will be disguasted, he may tease the h*ll out of you though :P (that's not a bad thing)
well how does he act around you? he might like you too but since you have the whole "i-am-so-straight-they-use-me-as-a-board" attitude going on he will NEVER make a move...
you can hint that if you were ever to be with a man, that man could only be him. and then list all his good qualities. that's rather safe i think.
the "top"/"bottom" thing might become an issue if you decide to go out, but who knows, he might do "bottom" or even you may find out you wanna bottom.
good luck with him :) let us know what happened^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): Mod Note: It would appear that this post is from the Original Poster of the Question[don't know how to properly reply sorry]Ok maybe I wasn't clear about not giving a damn about my sexual orientation. Whatever you call it, I'm just myself. I obviously don't despise gays or he wouldn't be my friend - he makes some crappy jokes himself. I'm not a "repressed" sorry ass lurking in the dark, I just thought I was 1000% straight and alright, I was wrong. The question had just never arisen I guess. I just don't know how to confess it. Is that a crime ? ;) I understand the sexual orientation tag is important to some, but as for me, I just really, really, love someone and if he being a fish would make me a fish- banger then, so be it. Now enough with the judgement and some piece of advice please ? ;)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 You're not straight.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Sorry, but straight men and women, don't want to shag the same sex. You may be bisexual or gay, but definitely not straight. You're a cliche case of repression. Very religious upbringing, making homophobic comments around people, who had the balls to come out of the closet instead of hiding behind a straight facade. I don't see how you would attract someone like him to be honest. He's fun, free and very comfortable with his sexuality. Why would he date someone who is still pretending to be straight?
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