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writes: It's December, I'm a single mum on income support and just dread Christmas, my nerves are jangling at the thought of it! How do i get through it. I don't have any relative and few friends in the area and so i'm feeling so lost and alone. Money is tight and my son's father has gone to USA and doesnt pay any maintenance. Please give me some hugs and advice on how to get through this one.
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reader, elektra-2007  +, writes (28 August 2008):
Hi, im in exactly the same position. I spoke to my local toy shop who run a xmas club and i pay a couple of pounds a week to save up. There are similar schemes at supermarkets and Argos. Also I shop round. For example I went in Woolworths today and picked up some toys today in the sale just £1 each...ive put them away. I start my xmas shopping in January I see a bargain, get it and put it away. Shop at bargain shops like home bargains and B&M'S. Also as daft as it sounds try not to influenece you child into any perticular brand I.e spiderman. Ive got friends that buy there kids everything in 1 subject i.e spidy or dr who....then they feel under great pressure for these expensive items. I tend to stick with old faithfuls like lego, playmobile, wooden rail. then if i do get one of these toys he really like hes gratefull. And limit yourself be hard stick to it, if anyone mentions the amout you have got tell them you are sticking to a budget because you want your child to grow up unspoilt. And lastly remember this the less toys your child has the more they appreciate them and play with them. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (1 December 2006):
 I'm sorry that you're going through this. Just know that christmas was never meant to be about how much you could spend. It's about sharing your time and love with your loved ones. Pls know that you're going through this, just for a season. In no time things are going to look up. Just be positive about what you do have. God bless.
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reader, DEBS83 +, writes (1 December 2006):
 iam a single mum on income support hv a child as well trust me you will get through xmas just seeing ure child with is new toys will mk u smile trust me ure not the only single mum
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): okay sweethaert its hard I know it is.
and lots of love and kisses to you xxxxxxxxxxx.
but why does christmas have to be about spending lots of money, thats just what the retail industry want you to think, so that you feel like you have to buy all the latest toys for your nippers!!.
but its not about lots of pressies and tons of food, not really. Its about spending time with the people who matter to you. so have lots of fun with your son and dont feel pressured to buy tons of pressies. one nice present that he really wants is all he needs and he will understand.
and christmas dinner doesnt have to be flash, a nice chicken or small turkey is more than enough for both of you.
So just chill out enjoy the time you wil have together and just remember that its not always going to by this hard.
All my love and kisses and hugs...
XXXXXX
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Christmas always puts a lot of pressure on people, no matter what the circumstances. It is a day like any other why do we have so much stress/pressure about it?
You can buy good gifts for your son in charity shop.
You will make new friends soon, look out for local groups, get involved with a local charity yourself. Great way to make friends.
Can relate to no relatives as mine live abroad, but gets easier with time.
There is nothing you can do about father of your son being absent and not helping. But concentrate on what you can do, try to stay positive and reassure your son that you are both happy give him something to look forward to.
You need to be strong for yourself and your son.
Here is a million hugs from me for each day that goes by not just for Christmas.xxx
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