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writes: How to hit on girls?I'm shy guy and I don't know what to say to girls. Usually I say ''How're you doing'' and then ''you're beautiful''. Then I don't know how to continue.. What should I say to a girl if I want to hit on her? How do I approach her? Usually I try to hit on girls in clubs. And one thing I noticed is if a girl shows interest in me I start to act like I'm not interested. I don't know where's that coming from.. I have noticed also that girls never say straight they are interested they just drop hints. That way I know they're interested in me.
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reader, whitetie +, writes (1 December 2006):
Okay.Yo dont hit on women. You make them hit on you, Dress smart, Act Normal and make up a conversation with them. (A normal conversation)
Dont ever use that line" how're you doin" It is very stupid and women will pick up on this.
Buy them a drink. Stop using "corny" lines from movies and television???????
Be yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): You don't "hit" on girls, you have conversations with them.
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reader, pica +, writes (29 November 2006):
If a strange guy comes up and starts with the "you're beautiful", girls know it's a line. Please don't say if even if you mean it - wait a few dates! The guy posting below has good advice. Cheesy lines are a complete turn-off and I suspect the reason you don't know what to say if a girl answers is that you have no line to use! Conversation about the club, the music etc will give you something to talk about. She'll know you are chatting her up but you will have something to say which is a good start. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): Try telling the truth, but don't do it in a sappy manner (show some wit, sophistication, intelligence, creativity).
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reader, jessekk69  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 I Agree with anon above. and i have a friend (guy who is my husbands band member) also be totally honest. everyone loves honesty. e.g hi there, im really shy. and im really scared to be talking to someone who is as beautiful as you, so please hellp me out. just an idea. x
(feel the fear and do it anyway)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): Ask her an "open" question - i.e. one that needs more than "yes" or "no" as an answer. Example (suitable for a club, I guess): "I love this music - what sort of music do you like?".
You can practice this sort of question on anyone - your mates, old ladies at the bus stop. It's just a useful way to open a conversation and get the other person to respond.
Then follow up with a positive response and another open question that invites her to say more "I love that music too - but I don't know much about it - who are your favourite artists?"
You don't need to be a great expert in the subject, but you need to know enough to ask the right questions.
Then when this topic has run its course - "What else do you like doing?" or "What do you do when you're not clubbing?"
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